||[Apr. 17th, 2007|12:42 am]
The Question Club
Sooo tonight I was arguing (and it was a very heated argument) with with my man-whore friend about this.|
Basically, his last three girlfriends cheated on him with many many other guys, and they called the police on this guy lying and saying that he robbed people, and that he beat his girlfriends. He's now on probation for six years.
But we ended up talking about whether or not girls necessarily "want" more male sexual partners. He said that girls do, regardless of emotion, and I told him, no, that's not true, it's more likely that guy will manipulate a girl to get sex.
But then I reminded him, well, the last few girlfriends you had weren't exactly the best choice, considering they cheated on him and put him in jail for things he didn't do. Then he told me I have "no frame of reference." He also said that girls don't want to be looked at as sluts, and that's why they won't have sex with everyone (but he wouldn't give a reason why a girl wouldn't want to be looked at as a slut--personally, I wouldn't want to be looked at as a slut because it gives you a shit reputation, and because there's emotion involved, and the fact that it's not expected for girls to want more than a few partners in their lifetime)
So--I'm a GIRL. I know that personally, when it comes to sex, there's emotion involved on the female side. He disagreed, because he said "I've had REAL LIFE EXPERIENCES (he's 20) AND THEREFORE I KNOW HOW WOMEN THINK." And he's said that he knows more girls who will manipulate guys to have sex.
So to the questions (for girls, mostly)
1) For girls. if you're offered the oppurtunity to have sex, and you want to have sex with them anyway, would you do it on a whim?
2) Let's say you wouldn't have sex with someone because you didn't want to be looked at as a slut. Why, specifically (besides obvious reasons) wouldn't you want to be looked at as a slut?
3) For girls or guys: Is there emotion involved with sex? Would you rather have sex with, and be in a trusting relationship with someone? Girls: Have you/would you manipulate a guy just for sex, or do you think it's more likely for a guy to manipulate you for sex?