||[Feb. 12th, 2007|02:00 am]
The Question Club
After having to listen to an arguement between a "You must live together first or you won't love your husband" person and a "OMG! you people are living sin!" person, (and being reminded about it from an earlier post here), I find that I really don't understand either side. Not to offend anyone, but I'm honestly curious about these questions.|
*****Barring religious reasons, people who have no intention of marrying, and people who are just plain stupid and shouldn't be together anyway*****
Why is it that so many people say you won't really know your SO unless you live with them before marriage? I don't mean why do they say it, but I mean what are these things? Why can't you know them without living together? And what of these is so important that you wouldn't marry someone?
And, why do so many people bring up seeing if you can deal with their annoying habits? What habit is so bad that you'd leave someone you've made a lifetime commitment to? And if someone knew they couldn't be with someone who has these habbits, why wouldn't they have figured it in beforehand?
Also, why is it that people assume that if you don't live together you've never discussed important things like how you're going to handle money, raise children, have your time apart, etc?
And on the flip side:
Why is it that so many people who don't live together say that it's selfish to do so? Again, now really why, but how is it selfish?
Why do people assume that because you live together before marriage aren't as serious about marriage? Why is it they think if someone intends to marry, but lives together beforehand, they somehow think something like "Oh well, we can always split up?"
Also, why do people think you're attached to your SO's hip? Or that you can't be your own person?
Also, why is it that when two things are essentially two sides of the same coin, many people think their side is right for everyone and anyone who picks the other isn't as smart/mature?