|Breaks in Relationships
||[Jan. 22nd, 2007|02:14 pm]
The Question Club
My boyfriend of 6 months and i have recently split up. We both still love eachother, but he is unhappy. in his past serious relationships, the first 6 months are great but the next 6 are hell. He finds himself getting annoyed with silly things the girl does, even though he knows that he shouldn't be getting annoyed with her. He's also noticed that this is just starting to happen with me. He wants to take a break from the relationship for a while until he can figure out why this happens and what he can do about it. He doesn't want to lose touch with me, but he needs some time alone so if we do get back together, it will be a healthy relationship and not one of petty fights and bitterness. I'm the first girl he's taken this initiative with so we don't end up constantly fighting and having a really bad end to the relationship. He doesn't know how long it will take, but we have agreed to a few things:
1. We will hang out roughly once a week, not at his apartment (too many memories), just as friends.
2. We are free to date other people, but we will tell eachother when we go out on dates etc. The purpose of this is to make sure we are still on the same page (ie, he finds he is ready to date me again but then finds out ive been seeing another guy)
3. He hangs out with me on valentines day so I wont sit around and play "Love hurts" over and over.
I still want to get back together with him, but I've never been in a long term relationship that has taken a break before, nor have a seen any friends in this kind of situation. To those of you who have been in a long term relationship with breaks, how has it worked out? Anything you would recommend I should or shouldn't do? I don't want to hear "your boyfriend is a douche, hes just trying to let you down easy" or anything like that. Thanks for any advice you can give me.