||[Jan. 17th, 2007|10:45 pm]
The Question Club
Ever had a family member or a friend wanted to marry someone who would only hurt them? Did you do anything about it?|
I've got a cousin who is marrying this wench of a girl. He has lost his/our friends because of her childish demands, and he's now in the middle of her trying to cut his own brother out of his life as well. So far, only another "bad for him" friend, and I have been allowed to still hang out with him, and I'm pretty sure the only reason I am, is a) so she can keep tabs on his old friends, and show them that he daily chooses her over them, and b) because I'm family as well. He's just bought her a ring, and the engagement is soon to follow.
I would love to say something to him, but after watching all the cuts made...I don't want to be the next one cut out of his life. I end up dealing with her by pretending she's someone I like when I'm forced to talk to her.
ETA: I'm not really looking for advice...more looking for similar stories, someone who understands. I know better than to say anything to him, it's just...ARRRRGH, on a daily basis, as she does more and more, and he looks more and more like a schmuck.
ETA2: I think I didn't explain it so well...in order to remain friends with him, I have to be friendly with her. I can't just put up with her, because the people who didn't like her, but wanted to remain friends with him, were on her shit list, and he couldn't see them anymore (ie, all of his/my friends). Furthermore, we grew up like brother and sister, and that doesn't even matter either- she's pissed at his brother at the moment, so he can't talk to him either. I think the only reason she continues with me, is to leave stupid comments on my MySpace page that make us look like bff, and my friends will see it and think I like her and support her and my cousin. Such as...my cousin's former best friend? Every time he comments, she HAS to comment within an hour or two after. Has to. If we make plans in an email, she has to confirm in my comments to let them publically see that we're getting together. See what I mean by crazy? She goes out of her way to do this crap. And if I were to call her on it...she'd feign innocence and my cousin would be on her side, and CHOP CHOP, bye bye friendship.