||[Sep. 29th, 2006|01:03 am]
The Question Club
Women, Do you prefer:|
A.) Attractive, arrogant, cocky, stubborn, insensitive asshole guys who will undoubtably abuse, use, manipulate, lie, cheat, steal and degrade you.
B.) A Not neccesarily attractive but still a beautiful human being who is compassionate, sensitive but not overly emotional, caring, understanding, tolerant, intelligent, assertive, independent, confident and loyal .
If A > B, why? Even subconsciously, why would a woman choose A > B.
It seems silly to even have to pose this question but it seems that every single woman that I come across whom I come close to finding myself in a relationship with usually end up going with type A guys over type B guys. I've heard it all; 'women just like a challenge' or 'women just like guys they want to fix'. Why is it that more abusive, manipulative, egocentric guys can get girlfriends or, more commonly, sex partners or fuck buddys but guys who are responsible, independent, intelligent and compassionate get left out in the dust. If looks have everything to do with it why do so many girls deliberately lie and say that looks don't matter at all?
In a larger, more universal, view of things I personally feel we only accept the love that we feel we deserve or that we only receive what we are willing to allow. Which is a little sad when you look at our culture with our high divorce rate and the fact that a woman is beaten, raped or molested every ten seconds. Women are objectified and guys are taught that it is 'cool' to be arrogant and rude and that it is important to establish a strong, tough, domineering identity in order to be accepted while women are taught to yet again be submissive only this time under the guise of 'independence' and taught (by the media, most importantly) that since guys are going to try to use women for sex that they should try to get the most out of it, usually by financial means.
If you agree with the above statements, what should type B guys do?
If you disagree, what is your reasoning?
And most importantly, if it is true that we only accept the love we feel we deserve and accept only that which we allow than would it be safe to say that the only way we will ever save ourselves and our culture and experience true healthy relationships is by loving, truly loving, ourselves?