||[Jun. 4th, 2006|07:01 pm]
The Question Club
I'm a security guard for an upscale-ish (it's not really, but the people that live here like to think they're rich) gated housing community. I'm basically just a gate sentry.|
Anyway, I talk to a lot of people, all day long. Guests coming in, vendors, realtors, whatever. A lot of people. From these experiences, spawn my questions.
1. When someone calls you "hon," or "sweetie," or "baby," do you find that offensive?
I get a lot of people that call me those things, and it's only really offensive when the person is being blatantly bitchy and using it to patronize me, or when they're obviously years younger than I am. When a 17 year old girl drives up and gives me a fake smile and says "Heyyy huuun!" I really want to slap them.
2. Do you honor the Mister/Misses/Sir/Ma'am rule when you meet people? If it's an older man, do you call him Sir? If it's a younger girl, do you still call her Miss or Ma'am?
I still do, all the time. Mostly because I'm paid to be polite, but also because I think it's a terrible thing to talk down to a child or teenager. Even if the boy is obviously a lot younger than I am, I'll still speak like I'm talking to an adult, but usually with a bigger smile and little more friendly (not that I'm rude to people).
3. Like I mentioned before, I basically get paid to be nice to people. I know at least a good percent of people here have to work with the public, so this question is more directed to you. If someone is being obviously rude or trying to get a rise out of you (yelling, cursing, personally insulting you), whats your tactic for dealing with that situation?
The meaner they are, the nicer I get. Sometimes, it's enough to defuse their anger, and other times it's a "legal" way to patronize them (legal meaning I can't get fired for being nice) when they're being absolute assholes.
4. Whats your opinion on the raising/lowering of cars or trucks? I know all of you have seen at least one ricer lowered so much the bumper drags, or a truck lifted so high there's a clear two feet of space between the tire and the wheel well.
It's stupid and looks awful.
5. Generally, what has been your experience with police? Have they been nice, or rude? Helpful or not? Also, what city did you experience them in?
All the cops here are extremely rude. I'm supposed to ask to see a badge or ID if they're not in a marked cruiser, and most of them give me a really hard time about it. I've had more than one threaten to fine me for "abstructing justice" because I repeatedly asked to see a badge or ID of a PLAIN CLOTHES officer. I've never met a nice one, either here in Discovery Bay, California, or in Beaufort, South Carolina.