||[Apr. 18th, 2006|01:23 pm]
The Question Club
Question about religion and relationships. |
My boyfriend is a devout Christian and I’m an agnostic/leading towards atheist. We’ve been together for over a year and it hasn’t raised any serious problems so far, but at the same time it’s something that we avoid talking about. We’ve talked about it a little bit but probably not as much as we should.
I tend to get uncomfortable when religion is mentioned unless it’s just a discussion of beliefs and not from someone who is involved in the religion. I especially don’t like talking about things that someone very close to me holds dear and I have a diametrically different view. I really don’t like Christianity. I disagree with a lot of the things that the Bible says we should do, I don’t like God and I have too many questions that no one could answer except for Him for me to understand some of the things that He asks of us. I’m also an incredibly open minded person. I’m pro-choice, pro gay marriage, I have no qualms about having sex before I’m married; I’m very liberal in the American sense (I’m Canadian, don’t even ask about my political standpoint up here). My parents are complete atheists and I’ve been raised by science and critical thinking.
On the other hand, my boyfriend was raised in a religious family and believes in God completely. He’s not a conventional Christian, he doesn’t go to church (doesn’t believe in organized anything – he’s an anarchist). He is pro-choice and will accept homosexuality even if he doesn’t like it. He’s a wonderful person and I love him, but his religion and my lack of it come between us. I sometimes feel like I’m standing at the fringes of an exclusive club which I can’t share with someone I care about; at the same time I don’t want to get into that club.
What I’m asking is if anyone has been in a similar situation and how you dealt with it. Personal stories, advice, anything is welcome. (Couples who have vastly different political views would also apply I think.)
I hope I covered everything in that long into I gave there. I’d rather have responses that apply to my situation rather than ones I have to say, “Yes, but this this and this don’t apply, do you have any other suggestions?” I’m sure I’ll have forgotten something anyways and will end up doing that, but I think I covered the large points.