||[Feb. 21st, 2006|01:49 pm]
The Question Club
I have a dear sweet friend whom I love very much. We've only been friends for a short time (six months), but we've become quite close. We're students in the same year and same major at the same school, so we have lots of classes together (three, actually). We sit next to each other in all those classes, and generally that's ok.|
The problem is this: She talks too much during class. It's only in one class that it's a problem, really, because the prof is pretty laid back, which seems to make her think that it's ok to talk. Generally, she's even talking about the material. But, the prof isn't really happy about it, and when she talks to me - well, you know how it goes. It makes it look like I'm talking back to her. I'm of the opinion that speaking up in class and having conversations about the material are good things when the prof allows it, but that to have a "side" conversation about the material, or about anything else, is rude - especially when other people are talking and should have the class's attention.
I've tried ignoring her - she'll tap my shoulder until I respond. I've tried "ssshhh"ing, which seems condescending and she still doesn't get the point. Last night it came to a peak - she was talking while someone was asking the prof a question, I asked her to keep it down, and the professor turned to us and told us to be quiet. So the prof thinks it's me, too.
It's a small school and a small classroom, and sitting somewhere else just isn't an option. Do I say something to her? I don't want to hurt her feelings - she's very sensitive and has an anxiety disorder that makes it hard for her to make friends, and I'm afraid to say something that might hurt her.
Do I say something to the professor? He's a great guy and I know he'd take her aside and ask her to keep it down, without implicating me at all, but she'd be absolutely mortified... and I don't want to look like a tattletale.