"Friend" does something (Z) to offend me => I try to explain why he shouldn't do (Z) => He feigns lack of comprehension instead of addressing the issue. => He replies with generic, defensive tactics without actually listening to what I am trying to say & explain. => I get supremely frustrated because he is one of the most (top 3) intelligent people I know -- He's better than that! Tell me I'm right or wrong, & support your stance with strong reasons. He should not dance around the problem & run off, making me even more irritable & lose respect for him. Then, to make matters worse, he plays the emotion card, as in, "Why are you so angry? You're letting your emotions cloud your thinking. You're acting like such a girl." => The last sentence really riles me up because he also proves that he's a sexist that has illogically lumped me into a stereotype which I despise. I don't feel that I am making any progress, as in, he hasn't learned anything from our discussion. Somehow, he has also made me into the bad guy in all of this because I'm the one doing most of the yelling. Oh, poor him being berated by me. By the way, he repeatedly asks what he did wrong & accuses me of doing that "girl thing" where they yell at men without telling the men what they've done wrong. Dude, I've repeatedly told you what you did wrong, & you'd know it if you were paying any kind of attention. Please, I know you're not stupid. => Friend, you know what? You're not going to change, I see. & I don't feel like I need to change because I'm the one who was offended here. You did me wrong. I think I should leave. Permanently. => He finally realizes that he's really crossed the line. He assures me that he will try harder to avoid doing (Z) because he knows it offends me. => I accept his offer. => Things go great for the next 24 hours. => Too great. He decides to see how stable the boat really is by making really sarcastic & snide remarks about (Z) just to see how I will react. => Unsurprisingly (at least to me), I do not react well. Does he really think he's so charming he can get away with this?? => I tell him that he's really an arrogant jackass (Especially in light of how well I treat him as a friend. I'm really not exaggerating here. I give & give in this particular relationship. He knows it, or he'd let me walk as I had threatened. He has more to lose than I do.). => He immediately jumps into victim mode even though he picked the fight while I was minding my own business. He asks, "Why are you yelling at me again? OK, just get it out of your system & yell at me until you're done." => WTF?? I do *not* want to yell at you, but you seem to ask to be yelled at so you can play victim, & reinforce this idea that women are bad & irrational. DUDE, WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU??? Hi, Manipulate Much? I really don't see why he insists on this kind of behavior. What does he gain from it?
-- Confused & Annoyed.
My patience is seriously wearing thin. This is beyond extraordinarily stupid.
I really must consider breaking away from this relationship. It's just WRONG.
Who votes for walking away permanently??