|working with ex's new gf
||[Oct. 2nd, 2005|10:35 am]
The Question Club
Okay, so here's the situation.
I dated this guy for two years. He was...in someways...my first love. I lost my virginity to him. About seven months ago, we broke up because he wasn't in love with me anymore, and because I didn't like anime. I'm not kidding. He said that we didn't have enough in common. It was probably one of the biggest heartbreaks of my life, and it was very, very, very hard to get over it.
I don't talk to him much for about six months, and out of the blue he starts talking to me again because his rebound chick after our relationship broke up with him. We started talking as friends again, he came over a few times (I dyed his hair for an anime con, he installed a dvd drive to my computer).
When he went to the anime con, he ran into this girl that I work with (I'm a bookseller at B&N), that he went to like...middle school with. I already knew this, because we'd talked about her a few times when we were dating, and somehow I told him about a year ago that she would be a good match for him. I really don't remember ever saying that, but now he's throwing it in my face.
When he first started hinting that he wanted to call her/date her, I begged him not to, not because I don't want him to date anyone, but because I just really felt very uncomfortable with the whole situation, what with having to work with her. I'd be fine if I never had to see her, but I work with her. I have to be civil to her. I have to be comfortable in my workplace, and that just won't happen if I have to work with my first love's new girlfriend, the chick that he wanted to be with the whole time he was with me, the chick that is now better than me. He really couldn't understand why I would be upset, and actually said that he was expecting a more positive response for me. Arghh.
So last night, I'm talking to him, and he mentions that he went out last night. He went out on a date with her. Despite my misgivings and my feelings on the situation, he really just doesn't care. He doesn't care that my work situation is in jeopardy because he wants to be with her, of all people.
So now I'm left with a dilemma. I can't quit my job, because I need the money, and I get a really nice discount on books for school, etc. I can't transfer locations, because they're much further away from my house, and it took me a friggin long time to learn where every single section is in the store, and I don't want to start from scratch again. I can ask to only be scheduled at cash, where she rarely is, but that will significantly cut my hours, because that's only one place they could put me at. I can try it for a little bit, but I'm just worried that it will fuck with me both professionally and emotionally.
So...I have no idea what to do. What would you do in this situation? Was I in the wrong, asking him not to date her because it would complicate/jeopardise my job situation?