September 27th, 2005

chihiro water
  • zephie

Misery Loves Company.

In the last month, a good number of people I know (in fact, I can't think of anyone who hasn't) have all been dealing with at least one of the following:
  • relationship (be it romantic, family, or friends) troubles, to the point of (being close to) breakups
  • loss of loved ones
  • serious health troubles
  • financial troubles
  • stress due to big changes happening or ahead (moving, loss of/new job, etc)

  • And, more in general, not even to mention the hurricanes. Maybe it's just my own strife of the past month that makes me notice it all now, but does it seem to you like this month has been gathering up on these negativities for a lot of people as a whole? Have you been struck by something like the above in the last month too?
    fiona by addiict

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    Does anyone know where I could find pictures of hairstyles of very long hair, but still stylish? My hair is slightly layered, it's past my mid-back and I'm growing it out for Locks of Love. I want to keep the longest layer but while I'm still growing it out I want it to look good. Any suggestions/references? I am in love with Lindsay Lohan's hair from Mean Girls, I just want a good photograph to show the stylist.
    cat tea

    (no subject)

    Have you ever disowned or completely cut off contact with a family member? What about an immediate family member (mother, father, brother, sister)? And I mean COMPLETELY cut off contact, not "I don't talk to them but I will still send them holiday cards, etc". How did you do it? Why did you do it? If you haven't, would you? Do you think there is any justifiable reason to cut off contact with a parent, or do you think someone who does that is ingrateful?


    How do you get rid of grudges?

    I've tried so many things to get rid of them, but they keep coming back. I'm still angry about things that happened in primary school! I know it's not healthy, but I just can't "let things go."

    (no subject)

    I have a 10 karat gold ring that's changing colors. There are two black dots and the rest of the band is turning a reddish color. Has anyone heard of this happened? Do you know what's causing it or how to stop it?

    In love and marriage...

    Marriage is another level of intimacy/connection/commitment than other relationships. While some people don't think that marriage is 'that serious', others consider it the ultimate commitment. I, for one, am that kind of person. When I married my husband I knew it would be a forever commitment. It was ever more solidified when we had a child. There were so many more ins and outs and variables to the equation.

    My questions:

    1. What constitutes cheating within a marriage? intimate conversation with someone else? dancing with someone else? having a drink or a meal with someone else that they forget to mention to you? e-mails? phone calls?

    2. Do you consider a difference between emotional 'cheating' and 'physical' or 'sexual' cheating?

    3. Which of the above, if any, would be be willing to forgive or at least work to continue your relationship?

    4. If you have children together would you consider a marriage more worth working on than if there were no children involved?

    5. If you and your spouse were involved in a physical altercation---anger that got to be a little too much---that results in a bruise, blood, or broken bone (it only happens once--and is not within the pattern of your relationship) would you work around it, or leave immediately?

    6. Would your answer for the last question be different in one of your children witnessed the event?

    more sleep questions

    If im sleeping and i have to wake up at a certain time the next day i constantly wake up to check the time..even tho i set my alarm to wake me up. does anyone else do this?

    Also, i have dreams about the same place all the time, do you think it means something?

    Consignment Shops

    1. Have you ever used a consignment shop to sell something?

    If yes...

    2. Were they able to sell your item?
    3. How long did they have the item before it sold?
    4. How much did it sell for and how big was their cut?
    5. Anything else I should know about consignment shops?

    Pam jazz hands by drumbeatdrops
    • lemone

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    Okay, so I've decided to play that contest the Pepsi has going on, where they give away a free Xbox 360 every ten minutes. What you do is buy/drink Pepsi, collect caps with the codes on them, enter them online for whatever time you please, and cross your fingers. My question is this: am I better off getting a whole bunch of them and entering them all at the same time, or one or two of them a bunch of times?

    There's usually about 1500-1700ish people in any given ten minute thingie and the winner is drawn from them. Therefore, I should have a 1 in 1700 chance of winning if I put in one code, 1 in 850 with two, 1 in 340 with five, etc. But that kinda takes a while and I get impatient. Has anyone here won? What time did you put in/what did you do?

    Also, while I'm in the neighboorhood, does anybody know of some good icon communities/journals? I want to fill things out all the way to my limit of 100.
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      bored bored

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    Has someone (maybe your partner) ever given you a gift for a certain occasion that had nothing to do with you? It delt with their interests a hell of a lot more than yours?

    My birthday is coming up, and I'm guessing my husband will be doing this. Ooooh I'm just waiting.. :)
    Summer puppy by ninneve

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    1. How would I go about checking my family's health history?

    2. Without my consenting at all, Visa sent me a credit card. I didn't activate it, but yet they send me monthly bills for $0. I tried to call and speak with them and get it canceled, but they insist my account number doesn't exist. I kept asking to speak to their manager and then that persons manager and so on, but everyone I spole to still kept insisting my account number doesn't exit. Yet its an actual credit card and a monthly bill with no charges still arrives every month. What can I do about this?

    (no subject)

    Scantron tests, the kind with the sheet of endless bubbles to fill out...
    Can those be set to "any answer except a is correct" or "2 points a, 1 point b or c, 0 points d"?

    I took one last night for a job, I need a 75% or better to pass. and it's a *GOOD* job. The test was hard, there were alot of times when it seemed there were multiple good answers or no good answers or answers that would be bad or good depending on tone of voice.
    If I fail I have to wait 6 months to take it again.

    EDIT: I called. I PASSED!

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    1. I'm home sick, still. I have a cold/cough thing, and I'm coughing so much that my entire body is killing me and I'm just not in the mood to get out of bed. Mom called and said she would bring me something home with her from work... what do I want? I'm tired of soup... something... else.

    2. I'm making my friend a big book of baking things for her birthday: recipes, terminology, measuring charts, etc. What else could I include?

    3. Are you double jointed? How so?

    (no subject)

    What are your odds for getting a car loan for about $12,000 (probably less) when you were on a consumer credit counseling program? I've been off the program for a year and was curious. All of my accounts are at $0 and in good standing. However, I closed one of the cards after my program ended. They were all store cards and the debt did not exceed $1,000. I currently have two open credit cards, both carrying balances. Have only been overdrawn once on one of those cards.

    How long will the CCCP stay on my credit? And based on the details mentioned above, what do you think my credit standing is at? I ordered a report but have to wait to receive it.

    (no subject)

    I'm auditioning for a play at my school (UC San Diego) in an hour and a half. Do you have any last-minute advice? It's my first audition out of high school, so I'm a lil nervous. The play is called Bus Stop, and I'm performing a poem as my monologue.
    Me--State Fair

    I don't know what to do.

    I'm going to college, and I am so lonely. I live off campus (I'm almost 26, I didn't want to have to worry about being with some kid in a dorm) and I am not meeting people in class. I've gone to a few groups that interest me, but the one meets when I have a night class (and it's the LBGTAU group, which SUCKS) and there have been a few other things I have or will be going to, but it seems to do no good.

    I'm taking a chem class that has me HORRIBLY anxious, because I don't get math, and there is a LOT of math. If it was just concepts, that would be okay, but no...I didn't turn in my homework this week because I looked at it and just felt like crying. I'm already in therapy for depression (which has come back full force) but not anxiety, and I'm hoping to talk to the prof tomorrow, she at least seems decent.

    Also, I'm super depressed because the guy I'm seeing--I don't know if he loves me or not. His actions are certainly pointing in that direction, but I'm afraid to say something because the last time I told him that I loved him (about six months ago) and it wasn't well recieved (because of the timing, and I realize this). He wants me to speak up during sex, and normally I'd have no trouble with this, but lately, I've been afraid to speak because I don't want to blurt out something that might be a not-so-great idea...

    I'm a mess. I thought things would get better living on my own and going to college again. They only seem worse. What do I do?
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      depressed depressed
    Etc: Graffiti: Woman-thing
    • sunk

    USPS question

    A US Postal System question:

    Say you live in California, in the 90210 zip code. If someone mails something to you, using the 90210 zip code, but with the wrong state (let's say they use Colorado instead of California, or CO instead of CA). What are the chances the package would get there? As in, what is more important, the zip or the state? Would the package be returned to the sender?

    I ask, because something I ordered was just sent (today; they realised the error after it was sent) was sent to MA instead of MI, but with my proper name, street, city and zip, and I'm curious as to what would likely happen. It was sent normal USPS First Class mail.
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      curious curious

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    Have you ever given blood?
    Good experiences or bad?

    I just gave blood for the first time today, since I'm finally old enough. I gave a pint in 5 minutes (pretty fast), with no pain, no bruising, no problems! I am really happy that I'm not the type that gets dizzy or faint afterward, I saw a lot of those today and it had me pretty scared.
    • carllyy

    Computer Question

    I'm at work trying to install a new internet access program. In any case, they told me to download the .zip file off their website. I did this, but my computer keeps treating it like a word file. I checked the properties and while it recognizes it as a .zip file it keeps opening it like a word file. How do I "unzip" the file? The operating system for this is Windows 98.


    1. What are the top five songs on your iTunes "Top 25 Most Played" list, or the equivalent for whatever player you use?

    2. Do you actually like the songs?

    3. Is the #1 song your favorite song?

    4. What do you think is the most romantic line in a song? What song is it?

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      Journey - Lights
    • Tags
    Halloween 2008

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    Can I substitute olive oil for vegetable oil in cooking? (I'm making brownies, if it matters.)

    If not, are there any other substitutes? The recipe calls for 1/2 a cup of vegetable oil.

    Edit: Thanks for your suggestions. As I didn't have canola oil either, I ended up calling my father and he said to use butter. (Yes, I do realize that's a heart attack in a bite.) They're still in the oven, but they smell like brownies!
    JAM <3

    kitty problem :(

    What does it mean when my cat's body starts twitching? I'm fairly positive it's not fleas because she's never been outside of my apartment and there are no other animals near here. My boyfriend said that it could be hairballs, even though that's not the conclusion I would derive just from watching her.. She doesn't appear to be close to coughing things up. What could be causing her whole body to twitch? What can I do to help?
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      worried worried

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    I have winows XP and I was pretty sure that microsoft excel came with it, but I don't really know how it works, but I can't find it or any program that I can create a spreadsheet with. What programs should I have in which I can create a spreadsheet? I'm trying to avoid having to download one if I have a program on my computer already anyway, though, if I don't, what should I download?
    Here's to hoping you know what's on my computer without even seeing it.


    So I know parking at the beach a lot can rust your car. My questions:

    1. Does this apply all year or only during certain weather/seasons?
    2. I have to park at the beach during the day for 2 days/week until the end of 2005. Should I expect rust on my car or not?
    3. Are there any products designed to protect against rusting from beach air (or just rusting in general)?

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    how can I, a girl who has serious self control issues when it comes to food, stay on a diet?

    and i can't empty my house of it, unfortunatly, since i have a chocoholic father and brothers and a mother who likes to tempt me by buying fun snacks and baking cookies. i have a cookie resistance issue.
    misc - cemetery

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    My toilet broke last night and hasn't gotten fixed yet. My roommates are asleep (or otherwise occupied...) so I don't want to just barge in and use somebody else's bathroom. But.. I REALLY have to pee.

    is it a bad idea to pee in the bath tub? hahaha.

    EDIT I feel much better now, thanks guys ;p
    Summer puppy by ninneve

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    What is a nice, mature way to discuss my lack of friends with my mother?

    We had an argument about how I needed a ride to a job interview. She told me to get one of my friends to take me, I told her that wasn't possible because I didn't have any. Despite the fact I don't talk on the phone, go out, or discuss anyone, which would be signs of friends, she believes I have this whole horde of friends hidden somewhere and that from now on they can drive me places I need to go like doctors appointments and interviews. Since these are necessary places to go, I need ideas on how to approach and talk this out with her. She basically sees this as her forcing me to be social or suffer not having a job/money and not getting to appointments, and I see this as her just not understanding that I don't make friends easily and the few I had have stopped contacting me, gotten on with their lives, and are living in other states currently, so maybe a fresh perspective on this will help.
    Halloween 2008

    (no subject)

    So, say you were meeting a new person - blind date, new friend, who knows. And you wanted them to have some idea of what kind of person you are, and who you are. But you can't actually tell them in so many words. Instead, you have to give them a box, with a dozen things in it for them to ponder over.

    What would you put in the box? No cheating - you're not allowed to include things such as links to your livejournal.
    • very

    (no subject)

    does anybody else HATE those bod men's fragrance commercials? they drive me nuts. nobody talks like that! my question: what are some commercials or ads that you love and/or hate? ones i love: the geico commercials with the cavemen!
    happy happy joy joy
    • chipb0i

    Doing things over

    So you have probably heard people say "If I had a time machine, I'd change what I did here" or "If I could do over one thing in my life", etc. My question is, would you really? While there are certainly situations where I myself would like to do this, when I really look back on things, I realize that I am the way I am now because of those experiences. They certainly weren't enjoyable experiences, but I would like to think that I am different now because I made those choices/mistakes when I did, and that I am a better person now for it, rather than what I could still be if I didn't have those mistakes/choices to make.

    So what is your thought? If knowing that a particular incident changed you for the better, would you still change that particular moment if you could? If so, why?
    • Current Music
      the thumping of an off-kilter washing machine
    • Tags
    lactose intolerant

    myspace on yourspace

    i hear this crazy notion that there is a way to retrieve yourself a higher number on myspace so that your profile photo/link will appear higher up on a friend's list. such as some people even go so far as to appear before tom and thus always be viewed on the front profile page of myspace, as in the first 8?
    what is the code for this? (slash the way to go about doing this?)
    it is not for my own personal myspace but rather a sort of campaign-type myspace so additional traffic to it would be very beneficial.
    nagini/harry otp

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    What's been the most embarassing moment of your life so far?

    Mine, it was so embarrassing I actually blocked it and didn't remember it until years and years later, when someone thought it a good idea to remind me: The time, when I was nine or so, when (don't ask me how) I forgot to put my skirt on in the morning and walked to school in shirt and pantyhose. (yes, they were the see-through kind, you could see my undies). The teacher sent me home to get properly dressed.

    (And I've done many things that could be viewed as even more embarrassing but that's the one moment I keep remembering with shame.)

    (no subject)

    What do you do to relieve stress?
    Do you find that if you don't relieve your stress you end up becoming more irritable and taking it out on others? If so, once you get into the routine of doing this, how do you get out of it?

    What's your hobby? (If you have one. I don't really have one. But I want one.)

    Also, do commercials scare you? I keep seeing a commercial for those Halloween Horror Nights things and they creep me out. Does it seem like a lot of times commercials for scary movies end up scaring you more then the movie does?

    (no subject)

    Would anyone like to quickly glimpse at a short paper that I just wrote for typos or other errors. I wrote it in like half an hour so I'm not too concerned about the actual content of it, but if you have suggestions on how to make it better, I'd appreciate the help.
    Kitty Lick
    • arewar

    DVD-Rs & Sims2

    What's the difference between DVD-R and DVD+R (and CD-R and CD+R)? Does it matter?

    I have been able to play DVD+Rs in my computer. Can I safely assume I can record to DVD+Rs? I want to buy some, but don't wanna waste my money if I won't be able to use them.


    A friend of mine let me install their copy of Sims 2. (Yez, omg pirate!) They told me I can buy an expansion and play the game using the expansion CD instead of the normal one. True?

    What expansion should I buy?

    (no subject)

    Okay, antibiotics.
    "Take them all, even if you feel better, take them until they're gone."

    The antibiotics in question were for a bee sting that managed to get infected, hand swelled up and was itchy. Three times a day, with food. Crazy. I'm a college student. It's unusual for me to eat twice a day.
    The first weekish, I was good with them. Then i started slipping into not eating breakfast(and not geting that pill), forgetting to take it at some point... for perpective, i should have been done the 23rd or 24th, and i still have 3 days-ish worth of pills... I could have sworn I wasn't *that* bad about them.

    Hand is unswollen and no longer itchy.

    What's worse, in terms of avoiding developing the flesheating virus in my hand?
    Quit taking them, or continue this 'oh crap i think i forgot my pill but it's too late to take it now I'll have to wait till the next one' on/off thing?