|I cannot take this girl anymore!
||[Jul. 20th, 2005|12:27 pm]
The Question Club
How do you get someone to leave you alone without being totally rude about it?|
I had this friend...we were great friends, until she got to be completely annoying and self-centered. Now, this might sound really bitchy, but I just cannot stand to be around her anymore. All she does is complain about her life, put other people down, and talk about herself. I just don't want that kind of negativity in my life. If I told her this, she would completely freak out and lose it. She is incredibly sensitive and has low self esteem as it is, so I can't just say to her "You're a self centered bitch, leave me alone."
I keep blowing her off and telling her I am busy whenever she wants to "hang out" (Read: bitch and moan to me, the only one who she THINKS will listen, but I won't anymore! Aaaaaah!) but she is not getting the hint. She keeps trying...keeps IMing me and asking me to go to lunch and crap. Now she says that she wants to give me my birthday present that she has had for months, but was "too busy" to give to me in May, when my actual birthday was. I don't even want the damn present, because I do not want to establish the relationship of hanging out or her coming to my house again. How do I get this toxic "friend" out of my life without completely shattering her and being a total bitch? Help!
(I know I sound like I being mean here. Really I'm not...I just cannot deal with her anymore. If you knew half the things she has done...well I could go on and on all day.)
EDIT: I wanted to add that this girl is so self-centered that the first time I saw her after my dad passed away, the first thing she says to me is "Do these earrings go with this necklace?" Ugh. And, every time I invited her along to things with my other friends, she would always "get sick" so all the attention was on her. Then, when she finally made some friends of her own, she would brag about all the stuff she did with them, but never invite me along. Also, she started a business and I came up with the name of it for her...I got zero credit or thanks for it. This is how toxic this girl is. But at the same time, I feel bad for feeling this way about her, because she has also done some really nice things for me.