August 9th, 2003

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How would you pronounce the word "learned" when using it as an adjective, such as in the phrase "a learned professor"? Two syllables or one?
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so, this is another advice question...

my best friend has had some troubles over the past year, which, to make a long story short, have left her more secretive and closed and weird than before. at times it feels like my friendship with her is failing because of this reason, but we've always been able to somehow pull through it together. i love her to death, so unless she pushes me away completely, i'm not going to give up on her.

here's the dilemma. in our group of friends, i thought my friend, jessica, was attracted to one of our mutual guy friends earlier in the summer (june-ish), partially b/c of her flirting with him, and i thought it got confirmed went she discreetly told me that she liked him. only a few days after this, another of our friends (a girl) started dating said guy. well, as summer wore on, jessica and the guy became very close emotionally--they have both been through bad breakups this year (very bad), and i think they connected with that and eventually their friendship became very strong. the other girl started getting weird (naturally)--i believe that she was jealous and insecure about the situation. so recently, the two have broken up (they pretty much had a set deadline--she goes back to miami for college in two weeks), and she mentioned to jessica that she thinks the guy and jess should start dating. the whole thing is really weird b/c we are all friends and whatnot. jessica told me that she is not attracted to the guy physically, and doesn't know if she would consider dating him in the future. she also says she feels weird about dating a friend and fed me the crap about a relationship ruining a friendship. i tried to poke around to get her to tell me what she was thinking, but she remained as closed and secretive as ever.

in my honest opinion, i think she likes this guy a lot, and although i think it's hard for her to get into a relationship again, he is a decent enough guy to help her through it. if she's going to date anyone right now, i think he would be good for her. he seems to be somewhat interested--they call often, hold hands, cuddle, etc. i think she is pushing her true emotions away b/c she thinks they'll hurt her, and while i fully understand that, i still find it hard to stand by and let her do that. i think in some ways she wants to continue victimizing herself, whether she's aware of it or not. her behavior has cost her dearly with some of our friends, and so far this is one of the biggest situations that i've really felt she pushed me away from (normally she would let me in on most everything she's feeling and thinking).

should i express my totally honest opinion with her, and try to communicate that it's hard to help her when she keeps nudging me away, or should i just keep to myself and let her do her own thing?

like most advice-seekers, i'm just looking for suggestions on how to think of and maybe handle the situation. criticism allowed (though i don't think i have to tell this group...;) ).
if you need more background or clarification, just comment.
thanks in advance.
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Ok I'm trying to answer this trivia question:

In the Schoolhouse Rock cartoon about adverbs, what was the name of the guy from whom you could get your adverbs?



Anyone know the answer?
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Anyone know who offers a VISA with a fixed low rate (6.99% or lower) with no annual fees and no balance transfer charges?

i am happy with capital one's 8.99% fixed i have now.. but i have a card with a $500.00 balance on it now at 15% that i want to transfer and close..

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A slightly religious question here....But also one for any interior designers....Or particularly bored people

My parents are getting a new TV for their room...Which means I get their old one...But my room is very small, and the only available flat surface I can think to put it on is on top of my green chest.....but what currently resides there is my shrine...(It's a Hindu shrine...I'm not a strange obsessive person or anything!)

So, here are my options....The TV is going there and Ganesh, Buddha, Lakshme and their lil buddies are definitely having a change of residence....But do they move:

a) onto the floor, where I'll tread on them ad hurt my feet
b) or onto my other chest, which is under my vanity....So they won't be seen a heckuva lot of the time
c) or do I get up off my lazy arse and clear off the top shelf of my bookshelf, which has a loada crap on it???
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How do you pronounce "mg" as in "milligram"?

My girlfriend was reading some medical information, and she got to a part that was like "128 mg dose of blah blah" and she pronounced "mg" as "meg". I said "No, 'meg' would be short for 'megagram' and that would be a huge-ass pill! If you said you had 256 megs of RAM in your computer that'd be okay, short for megabytes."

"Nyuh uh, that's how doctors say it!" -her (not a doctor)

WHO IS RIGHT?!?!?!?
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Ok, I need some help..

I gave my 16 year old neice a LJ code, and now she has her own journal. Now I've found out she's sexually active (has been for a year and a half *gasp*) and has a 21 year old boyfriend. Currently I'm the cool aunt and my husband (who she is directly related to) will go completely ballistic if he finds out about the boyfriend or the sex. I feel like I'm in a difficult position here. Should I say anything to her mom, who probably should know about the boyfriend, or keep being the cool aunt and try to help keep her out of trouble? I really want to ask her if she's on birth control and help her get some if she isn't, but I'm afraid she'll clam up on LJ if I do. If I offer to help her with birth control, then I'm saying it's ok to have sex, but at the same time I know whether I approve of it or not she'll still do it.
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