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||[Apr. 20th, 2003|06:41 am]
The Question Club
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society's really got me bugged... i'm just wondering if i'm the only person who thinks it's perfectly possible to love other men in a very deep/caring, but in a non-sexual way.. wanting to be close to them.. hugs, sleeping in the same bed, and stuff.. and still be heterosexual
see the idea with sex with another guy is not exactly a turn on i would say (in my opinion that is, if you like the sort of thing please don't be offended!) .. i suppose that's normal for a heterosexual male. but at the sametime.. when i'm in bed at night i have "fantasies" or whatever you want to call it of sleeping with one of my male friends.. in the literal sense.. under the blanket and top sheet.. arms wrapped around each other asleep in peace and bliss. i feel the same way about a lot of females too. and a lot of it has to do with emotions and/or personality.. i'm just not the type to share a bed with a complete stranger, no matter how "hot".. i know a lot of people consider the personality thing b.s. or whatever, but while, sure, looks can be/are an important factor, i do tend to fall in love/like with a person because of their personality.
but i keep getting slapped back to reality with the limitations of society. or maybe society is right.. maybe being heterosexual and having these feelings shows i need to seek professional help, do i need to seek professional help?
oh and obviously i'm talking about american society. are other societies more open minded about such things that i have talked about or is the whole world pretty much the same about all this?
i guess the thing i'm REALLY trying to ask is.. am i alone when it comes to these feelings? i'd be especially interested if other heterosexual males have similiar type feelings as i do.