||[Mar. 29th, 2003|07:31 pm]
The Question Club
I am getting increasingly impatient with my sister's lack of responsibility and her thoughtlessness. I, age 25, am always expected to be the "responsible one," while my sister has more concern for the person she is dating at the moment than my mother, who, at age 52, has a lot of medical problems and is currently in the hospital.|
My sister has no intention of leaving our town, but upon my boyfriend's graduation, we plan on moving to the graduate school of his choice. I am looking forward to a new sense of autonomy. Also, the job market is not good in my field in my town.
I brought this up to her the other day, and asked her if this would be okay. I told her, "You will have to be there for her more. She gets sick often and she may need you to come over and help her from time to time." She said she was okay with this, and that recently she has "finally started to feel like an adult." This made me feel much better.
My sister then proceeded to not call my mother all that day or night to see how she is doing in the hospital. She had no good excuse for it. She just had "other things to do."
I am beside myself with worry over this situation. Do I give up starting my life, both maritally and professionally, to stay in town and do the job of two children? Do I lecture my older sister until I am blue in the face? I can't see myself leaving my mother without knowing that she will be cared for, but I can't see myself staying here with my career going nowhere and my future husband off somewhere else. HELP!