my husband is the best man in a wedding in three weeks. I wasn't invited (for obvious reasons~ I'm not in the bridal party) to the rehersal dinner. that night happens to be the only night he has off that week.how rude would it be to go to the rehersal but not the dinner? they are "such close/good friends of ours" (his words not mine) so I think they should understand that he wants to use his one night off to relax at home with his wife. Its also not like he will be able to see me at the wedding because he will be doing his best man duties and I understand that. My other thing is they sent an invitation to him that said rsvp if you are coming and what you will be eating, which to me gives him the open choice to attend the dinner.