I am a rare bird (lastbeautflgirl) wrote in thequestionclub,
I am a rare bird

So, imagine that my boyfriend's name is Amos Guido Smith III (it's not), and he hopes to one day have a son and name him Amos Guido Smith IV.  I, being the likely future wife, hate the prospect of having to give a son this name.  I wouldn't want to address him by either his first or middle name. 

My boyfriend and I have been together over 7 years, but this is one thing that just can't be discussed without my boyfriend saying it's a "deal-breaker".

I understand that he takes pride in the name and would like to pass it along, however, I feel like a child should have their own name, or at least not a name like Amos Guido.

I happen to know that my boyfriend's mother didn't like the name either, and actually only suggested this to his father as a joke, but his father took such great delight in it that she didn't have the heart to tell him no.  And so I guess I have her to thank for this situation.  My boyfriend doesn't know about this...and I'm pretty sure it would do more harm than good for me to be the one to tell him that.

What do I do?  I've considered suggesting we see a counselor to help us discuss it more civilly, but I'm not sure how far that would get us.  I've considered putting Amos Guido Smith IV on the birth certificate and then just call him something random like "Nick", but I'm afraid his father would still insist on calling him Amos and it would be weird.  I know some people who are III's go by "Trip" is there anything like that for IV's?  I don't want to call him "Quad"...

I'd like to imagine we'll just have girls and not have to worry about it, but we've already had 1 boy and for some reason my family only seems to produce males anymore, so I figure it will be an issue.

Any suggestions...other than running for the hills?  Thanks!
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