Okay, can someone explain to me why people get worked up when someone adds them to their list and they don't want them to? If you don't want to add them, don't. If you don't want their name to show up on your list, hide the friends of bit. The world will not collapse if a troll-like person adds you and screws up your perfect friends/friends of ratio. And why the hell do people think this is something to send to LJ Abuse?