Vee (fluffytowel) wrote in thequestionclub,

Boring advice question:

Recently at college I made friends with a girl who is from Pakistan and has only been living here for a month. Well, I say friends, it sort of went more:

Her: "You're in my tutor group, yes?"
Me: "Yep, that's right!"
Her: "Can you help me? I don't know where to go."
Me: "Sureio!"

And from then on she just kind of followed me around.

I don't really mind, it must be very hard for her to make friends in a completely foreign country so I always invite her to come with my friends and I to get dinner and so on.

However.. thinking about it, I've realised that she's a little ignored in our group. Not intentionally so, I think it's just that we talk rather quickly about various topics and as her English is a little shaky, she finds it hard to keep up. And we really don't have all that much in common with her. I'm finding it quite hard to think of things to talk about with her when we're alone as we like completely different things (and also as I talk very quickly she finds me hard to understand, though I do try to slow down...) and come from completely different cultures.

So.. is there anything I can do to help her feel comfortable/fit in? Any ideas for conversation topics? This is the first time I've ever been at a loss to make conversation with somebody o.O Also, I was thinking of asking her if she wanted to come to the movies with us this weekend but I'm not sure whether this would be a good idea as, like I said, she has shaky English (so might not understand the movie) and doesn't really have much to talk about with my friends. Thoughts? It's really awkward to have someone in the group who isn't saying anything and is looking kind of bored/confused.

ETA: Also, does anyone have any idea what language 'Udu' is? I asked her what her native language is and she said a word that sounds like 'Udu' but when I google it all I get is something about drums o.O
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