goop (goop) wrote in thequestionclub,

Birthday gift ettiquette.

I have a friend who I've been friends with for about ten years. All through school, we always traded birthday presents and christmas presents every year.... but then we graduated high school five years ago and now we only really communicate through myspace but rarely actually see each other... maybe a couple times a year, usually for the routine gift exchange, even if it takes a few months to arrange a belated get-together.

We both have september birthdays and her party was earlier this month but I couldn't make it. I intended to get her a gift to give her when I saw her a few days ago for an unrelated event but I completely forgot, so I figured she wouldn't get me one either since I wasn't even planning a birthday celebration and we probably wouldn't see each other until christmas. But I was taken completely off guard and thrown a surprise birthday party today, even though my birthday is next week, and the friend ended up giving me a $25 gift certificate.

I'm not sure how to handle this situation? As I said before, we only see each other a couple times a year, so casually giving her a belated gift isn't as easy as arranging a get together with a specific purpose....but I feel STUPID for approaching it as "sorry I forgot to get you a gift but since you gave me one, here is a late one in return" Plus I don't drive so it would be like "...and can you come by to pick it up?"

LOL. I know I sound like an idiot. I feel like an idiot.

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