I just bought a condo and moved in at the end of April. It's technically 3 bedrooms, but I sleep in one, use one for a home office, and the basement one is not furnished but will be a guest room when I buy some furniture in another year or so (I am not done furnishing the upstairs). There's another room downstairs I use for working out, since I'm no longer going to the gym regularly because covid. I've had a pretty rough time the past 5-6 years with a ongoing work stress, a divorce, a subsequent long-term relationship ending, my daughter dying traumatically, and then of course this pandemic, and I have lived in some shitty apartments that whole time. This is the first time I've owned my own home (my ex and I owned a house together and he wasn't great about sharing, like he had an office and I had no space of my own).
I truly don't want anyone in my home, not even a casual friend who pays rent, not even for the short term. My partner comes over a couple of evenings a week, but he doesn't stay - it's not his home, it's mine. I haven't even acquired a dog yet because I just need to be by myself, a lot. I offered to help my friend find a new place, and I offered to help her move. Am I a bad person for not offering her living space?