enola d! (enoladismay) wrote in thequestionclub,
enola d!
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should i write a letter to my ex?

i really wanna write my ex a letter apologizing for being such a fuck up but i also wanna mention how much she hurt me in it. i spent at least the last quarter of our relationship trying to tell her i was hurt by her and i didn't feel heard so i wanna just say some shit one last time just in case. but does she already know? i always gave her specific examples of things and she hated it and got mad at me and told me it wasn’t real or that i actually was the one treating her that way. it was really messy. should i just assume she either knows or will deny it forever? can i tell her that it’s real and i won’t be invalidated like that? i know when we were together she would excuse her behavior as “reactionary” a lot but wouldn’t ever initiate revisiting things she was reactionary about. i feel like it might be worth it to say something a month+ later. i guess what i want to do is work on expunging any expectations about her responding before i can deliver any kinda letter to her.
but is it worth it? do i have a right to tell her these things?
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