Knight of Mars, Beater of Ass. (dazeydevyne) wrote in thequestionclub,
Knight of Mars, Beater of Ass.
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Not really sure what happened here....

So, TQC, I haven't posted in LJ for a long time, but this is such a wtf kind of situation, and if I talk about it in my real life, people will get involved and drama will start and I'm really not interested in that. But I honestly have no clue what I can do, and thought that since I had always seen such stellar advice given here in the past I could perhaps find guidance.

The case is this: I have had the same best friend since I was 15, so over 20 years. She has always been a bit of a bitch, but it was never really directed at me so it was charming rather than annoying.

Last July, I got back together with a guy I had been with twice in the past- once in my early 20s, when I was an asshole to him, once in my late 20s, when he was an asshole to me. We have both grown out of being assholes and our relationship is awesome. It's long distance, we live 3+ hours apart, but have seen each other every weekend since July. The only hitch I've seen is that he has anxiety and depression, but it's well managed and I'm patient.

On Christmas, I spent the morning with my family, and he with his. I drove to his city in the afternoon, and spent the rest of the day with my aforementioned bitchy best friend. All was well. When I went to my boyfriends house after he got back from a family dinner (I got to town too late to travel with them to attend), he proposed. I said yes.

This is not the problem.

When I texted my best friend the next morning to tell her the big news, her response was "that's dumb". She then told me that since he didn't feel comfortable spending the whole day with my family and not seeing his, we are not ready to get married. When I signed on to Facebook later that day, I found out she had removed me as a friend.

So, do I contact her and try to talk it out? Ignore it and wait for her to come around? Begin an all-out assault on Facebook where I release all of her embarrassing secrets I've learned over 20 years (ok, that last one is not going to happen, but...) I've already asked another close friend to be my maid of honour, so I don't NEED her, but I always thought she'd be there.

Any and all advice is welcome, and remember, creativity is cathartic!
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