I have been doing so research and have found a huge range of answers-anywhere from 'do what you want, have fun with it!' to 'that is the worst thing you can do.'
To put this into perspective (a bit) let's say you have been invited to a baby shower. This invite comes from someone you like and enjoy spending time with-a person who you think kindly towards. Turns out they are throwing their own baby shower. Does that change whether you want to go or your attitude towards her?
Many of the comments I read made it seem as though throwing your own baby shower looked like a gift grab (where you are just trying to get gifts). I've always felt this way no matter who is throwing the shower, to be honest. In the same situation as above, what if there was no registry included in the invite and, when asked, the mother to be let's you know that gifts are not necessary-that they are never mandatory at any event-though of course anything is appreciated. What she really wants is just to get together to celebrate and that there will not be a 'gift opening' section to the party because the mother isn't specifically asking for anything (and if one person brings something it would be weird to make everyone watch).
Also-tell me about your baby shower experiences please. Good? Bad? Awkward? What made them this way? Thanks!