sunspark (colorofthesun) wrote in thequestionclub,

I can't work with women.

It's hard for me to admit that.  I've always considered myself a feminist.  And logically, I know this has to be my fault somehow.

But every job I've ever had working for or with too many women has been fraught with complications (and every job I've had with a male boss, and mostly male coworkers has turned out just fine--every one, and I'm in my 30s, I've had a lot of jobs)

I used to be a preschool teacher, a job I loved but one that means working mostly with other women.  I enjoyed children but I just couldn't deal with the drama anymore.

Now, I work at a winery, a really interesting job where I'm learning a lot.  I don't want to give it up, but it's almost all women, and none of them seem to like me no matter how hard I work or how far I bend over backwards to please them.  It's like they know I'm desperate to get along with them and they exploit that weakness.  I know that sounds crazy but I swear it's true.

If you're nice to them, they walk all over you.  If you're assertive, they attack in pairs or groups.

No matter what you do, they will talk shit about you, and do absolutely anything in their power to keep you from moving up if you show promise or talent for whatever you're doing.

My question is, does anyone have this problem?  Any insight on how to deal?


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