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Backstory: My boyfriend and I have been seeing each for two years. He was born in Eastern Europe, his parents immigrated to the states when he was a young boy. He has mentioned in the past that his mother isn't thrilled about our relationship (I'm black); I figured that if I met her in person it would relax her. Anyway, this summer I spent a few weeks with him and his family. She seemed to truly like me, we bonded on some level (I went with her to traffic court, she bought me underwear) and I left feeling that all was well.

Fast forward to last night. She sent me a text saying that we needed to talk. I called her immediately and she said about a thousand tremendously hurtful things - that she likes me but she doesn't think that I understand her culture, that my boyfriend ultimately needs to be with someone of his own heritage. She kept saying that while she didn't "personally have a problem with me", she doesn't think anything could ever come of our relationship and that we should stop. I didn't quite know how to deal with what was happening; so I told her that I was sorry if I did anything to offend her but that I needed to go.

She just sent me a text saying that she was sorry for the "difficult but truthful" conversation last night. She also asked for my address so she can send me a bracelet and another piece of jewelry that I apparently left behind; and wished me "all the best" in my future endeavors.

TQC: Help? Should I say anything back? And if so, what?  I'm kind of baffled that she felt the need to contact me again.

Have any of you gone through anything similar? How did you deal with it?

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