Nikki (empress_nikki) wrote in thequestionclub,

Hey, tqc!

I've known since I started seeing my boyfriend, about eight months ago, that he had had a mole removed a few years ago that was pre-cancerous. While giving him a back massage a few nights ago, he asked if he had a mole in a specific spot and if I could describe it to him. I did so and he told me that that was a new mole and he was worried about it, but dropped the subject.

I went over to his place last night and he told me that he's having trouble finding a doctor in our area that will take his insurance, but that's really scared about the new mole and wants it biopsied. He told me that after he had the first mole removed, his doctor had told him that it was likely he would keep having problems with moles and to keep a close eye. He's so upset, tqc, and I don't know how to talk to him about it. He was telling me that he was scared this would be the rest of his life- finding new moles, waiting for biopsies, and eventually finding out they didn't catch it soon enough. What do you even say to that?

I want to reassure him that everything will be okay, but obviously, I can't know that. What would be comforting to you in this situation? What would you say? 
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