saccharin_smile (saccharin_smile) wrote in thequestionclub,
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When I was in grade 6, a girl started to bully me. I did absolutely nothing to provoke her, didn't even know who the hell she was until one day she came up to me at lunch and started in on me. It continued every single day after that for around two years-- she would wait at the entrance in the morning and follow me until I got to my first class, would find me between classes, and followed me out to my bus at the end of the day. She also got her friends to join in, so it really never ended for me.

Then one weekend I was at the mall with a friend, and had the misfortune of seeing the bully and one of her friends. They followed us around the mall harassing me. We'd go into a store to escape them, it would look like they gave up and left, and then they'd come out of nowhere and start up again. Two weeks later, the same thing happened again, only this time her mother was with her and actually joined in, threatening to kick my ass. After that incident, my parents filed a restraining order. It was that bad.

Yesterday a news story popped up on my Facebook feed about a 7th grader who killed herself because she was relentlessly bullied by a specific group of kids, and everything that happened with this girl and her mother came rushing back to me. I found the girl on Facebook, and through her page I found her mother. Her mother posted about the recent suicide, along with a long rant about how horrible bullying is, how something needs to be done, how she can't stand to keep hearing about all these kids being driven to suicide because of bullies, etc. Actually, she's made several anti-bullying posts. I can't even comprehend it. I was kind of amused by the hypocrisy of it all at first, but now it's really bothering me, and I'd like to confront her and call her on her bullshit.

So my question is: should I send her (the mother) a message? I wouldn't insult her or go off on her, as tempted as I may be to do so. I'd just like to ask her why she is preaching about the evils of bullying after what she and her daughter did, and tell her that if she truly means what she's saying, perhaps she should take accountability for what she did to me.

I honestly thought I was over this whole thing and that it hadn't really affected me all that much, but apparently I was wrong. I'm more upset now than I was back then, so it would be nice to get some closure.


tl;dr: A woman who threatened me after her daughter bullied me for years is all over Facebook preaching about how horrible bullying is. Should I contact her to point out her hypocrisy?
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