hearts and tarts (heartsandtarts) wrote in thequestionclub,
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My closest friend has a job and I don't. She always wants to go out to eat, go shopping, go get drinks, etc., and when I tell her I'm broke she always just says she'll pay for me so that I can join the fun. A lot of the time, she sounds like she's practically bribing me, like, "do you want to come over? I have weed." and whenever she says things like that I make sure to let her know that I want to see her regardless of anything she can, you know, provide for me.

So we do that a lot, and honestly she has been paying for a LOT of stuff for me lately. So the other day she asked me if I could give her a ride home from the doctor's office after she had some minor procedure done, and I was like yeah but I have literally no gas in my car but I can totally come get you if you can throw a couple dollars into my gas tank. She said something about how she didn't have much money either and would just drive herself. Then she didn't talk to me for a few days, and this morning I woke up to a very long text message from her about how it hurt her feelings ("felt like a slap in the face") when I asked her to pay me to do her a favor, and how I always expect her to buy me everything and I never reciprocate, and how I've gotten so spoiled, and how she feels really taken advantage of, and how much it sucks.

I never ASKED her for any of the things she did for me, it was always offered. And now I feel like it's being thrown in my face. Her message made me feel super gross and uncomfortable and never want to accept anything from her again.
Am I at fault here, or is she being weirdly manipulative??? What do I even say to that?
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