This past Friday, I was hanging out with my sister-in-law, and she asked me my opinion on a difference of perspective between her and my brother regarding allowance. She wants the kids (13 and 9) to have to do chores to earn allowance. My brother wants allowance and chores to be separate. She didn't understand why. I told her my understanding based on our shared upbringing would be that he probably wants allowance and chores separate because you don't have a choice to do chores. You do them because you are part of the family, and a family does things to function, and that's what is expected of you. Whereas if you pay them to do the chores, they could effectively think, "well, I will not do these chores and just not get my allowance this week." My question is twofold:
What's your take on allowance?
The kids currently have no chores. She would like to give them chores, but doesn't know what - she's a stay at home mom, so is kind of at a loss as to what to have them do. What chores did y'all do at that age, and/or what chores do your kids of that age do? (I suggested regular room stuff - make beds, tidy up, and weeding. I feel like at that age I was constantly weeding.)
I will report back your suggestions to her, and inform her this is what the internet tells her to do.