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Have you ever had to deal with an ex who seems to step over the boundary of platonic friendship? If you weren't comfortable with it, what did you do?


My ex-boyfriend and I are friends, and I am happy to speak to him at social gatherings but the frequency at which he speaks to me is getting irritating and odd.
When he was with his last girlfriend, he told me that he didn't want to speak to me too often or meet up alone because it could make her uncomfortable. I completely respected that and never pushed it. Now he has broken up with her however, he finds it completely acceptable to post amusing/cute animal videos on my facebook wall, or initiate conversations on skype, or ask if I want to meet up for a coffee, despite the fact that I myself am in a long-term relationship now.
Recently he sent me a private message on facebook saying 'haha look what I found when sorting out things in my room' with a picture of a note I had written him years ago. The note wasn't romantic and I think he showed it to me because I had drawn some bees and things on it, but it ended with 'love from Em' and I just found it a bit odd. I mean, keeping the note is fine because it's nice to keep things from the past, but taking a picture and showing it to me!? Also, he compared me to his last girlfriend, saying 'oh I far prefer you to S, she is a bitch, you're much nicer.' Eurgh, what.
I'm fairly sure he isn't trying to flirt or get off with me, but he is clearly being inconsiderate towards my current partner as it was an issue when he was with someone else. I engage in light conversation on skype sometimes but mostly ignore the amusing/cute animal video messages; it's difficult because I neither wish to encourage him nor be rude. I feel horribly guilty as well because I know that my current partner is uncomfortable with it.
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