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I think my boyfriend is gay...

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. I love him so much, and I never want to lose him. We currently live together, but we're moving back with our families because he doesn't want to commit just yet. He says it's too much. He's only 21. Our sex life is pretty much non-existant. He doesn't seem to want to do anything with me. When he does it's just five minutes of foreplay and that's it, pretty much. And that is rare, too. He's got a lot of boy friends and he says he loves them, and he gives them hugs. He's pretty big on the old 'bromance' thing. I worry though. Is it normal for a guy to have bromances?

He also talks about male sex a lot, too, and that the idea of it turns him on a bit. That really got the alarm bells ringing for me! If he's straight, why the heck would gay sex turn him on?! He keeps saying he's only joking, he's not into men, but he talks about gay men and the gay lifestyle a heck of a lot. He keeps telling me that there's a guy at work who he thinks is gay...and he will NOT stop talking about him.

He also talks in his sleep and is very coherent. He talks about men a lot, and last night he was going on and on and on about this guy getting his 'cock' out. It woke me up and I heard the lot. Does a straight man dream about men and penises? I nearly left the bedroom and slept on the sofa.

I'm really worried. Am I worrying over nothing? Does it sound like he's in the closet? Because I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy. I love him, but if he's gay then there's not going to be any future for us, at all, is there?
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  • Honestly

    Have you ever fired off a snot rocket?

  • Pillage

    If I snuck into your house and took what is on top of your fridge, what would I get?

  • Momma knows best...

    When I was growing up, my mom used a lot of things to help heal us up, and skip going to the doctor. She did some things for us that worked, but now…