loveandbees (loveandbees) wrote in thequestionclub,
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I feel absolutely awful for thinking this, but I have a very small sneaking suspicion that my friend may have just faked a pregnancy. What do you think?


My friend (let us call her X) told me a few days ago that she was four weeks pregnant. It was an accident, and as she is nineteen and newly single, she was not happy about it but planned on keeping it as she was 'not a coward.' X revealed that the baby was not her on-off boyfriend's (let us call him Y), but someone's with whom she had cheated on him. It was a secret, and I was under strict instruction not to tell anyone (least of all my brother - she had told him separately but he wasn't allowed to know that I knew), and she wasn't going to start telling people until January or so. Today, she miscarried, and it is still a secret.

I am of course providing her with support and love, but I feel that she could have very possibly faked it, for the following reasons.
1. Firstly, I know that she attention seeks a lot. Once a month or so she tells people 'goodbye, I am never going to see you again, I'm so sorry' etc, then runs away, refuses to tell anyone where she is, and then comes home unharmed. My brother and I were unaware of this and the first time we experienced it, were terrified out of our minds. She also claimed to have attempted hanging herself, but the light switch broke (she didn't attempt again after this happened).
I am of course not disputing cries for help, and I am aware of how dangerous they can be. I understand that she is clearly hurting a lot, regardless of the fact that she definitely does not plan on actually killing herself.
2. I also know that X likes drama and is fairly untrustworthy; she exaggerates all stories, and when she tells me things it is always starts with something like 'I have bad news', then she says she can't tell me now, and will come out with it five minutes later. When the news is via text, it is usually followed by 'it gets worse...' and then more persuasion is needed to find out what that is. In relation to liking drama/being untrustworthy, she shares secrets that are not hers to share, and occasionally embarrasses me by saying things about me to people that I would rather she did not.
3. I know that she tells seemingly random lies. When she revealed that the baby was not Y's, I asked her how she knew and she said 'Y and I have not had sex in months.' I reminded her that she had mentioned sleeping with with Y twice in the past month and she said 'oh, I was lying.' This means she either lied about sex with him, or she lied about the baby not being his. Either way, it doesn't make much sense.
4. It all feels rather... planned. Broke up with boyfriend, got back together (possibly), oh no she's pregnant but DO NOT TELL ANYONE, miscarried. Not particularly sad or emotional about either pregnancy or miscarriage.


I am of course never going to say anything to her because the consequences of my hunch being incorrect would be very upsetting to her. I'm just wondering - what are your thoughts? have you ever experienced anything similar, and did it come out in the end?
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