My mother-in-law routinely writes us letters about how we are going to hell, sends us religious newspaper clippings, and has left pro-life propaganda in my home. She also routinely sends us nutritional information about diets she thinks we should be following. She literally sent us propaganda shortly before Thanksgiving last year saying that taking the pill was the same as committing murder. Then she came and ate Thanksgiving dinner at my house, with me, THE MURDERER.
My husband's method of dealing with this is similar to hers. She writes these letters, but never speaks about it to our faces. He receives these letters, but never brings it up. That's REALLY not my style, and I'm very fed up. I really want to either write her a letter myself or talk to her about how offensive her actions are. I'm tired of finding things around my house after she leaves. I'm tired of getting her stuff in the mail, and for the love of God, her son is an adult and is free to send himself to Hell if he chooses.
My husband is terrified of the day I finally snap. I've told him that if he doesn't tell her to stop, one day I'll probably go off on her and it will be much worse than if we planned to talk to her about it. I know she's going to cry, because she's one of these people that uses crying to get her own way. I know myself and I know that one day she'll go too far and I'll lose it.
I should also mention that my husband sends his mother a great deal of financial support, fixes her car, does a ton of stuff for her, so I doubt having a conversation with her means she will cut off contact. Without us, she could not afford her apartment.
So, TQC, should we plan a talk with my mother in law, write a letter and not talk about it, or just wait until my notorious temper reaches it's limit?