KitschyDuck (kitschyduck) wrote in thequestionclub,
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I hate talking about money

My husband and I have a joint account and we agreed we would put in £100 each month towards stuff for the house/holidays or whatever. My husband earns a lot more than I do and regularly puts more money into the joint account than he needs to. Sometimes he puts so much in that he needs to take some back out again near the end of the month. He regulalry refers to the account as 'his' money since he puts so much more in and spends it without mentioning anything. 

I told him to just put £100 in a month because I want to be as responsible for the account as he is, and to communicate with me if he was going to use it.

Then he lends £500 from the account to his best friend for a few months. The friend then pays a £400 bill of ours (my husband usually pays 100% of the house bills and I pay for all the food). He said the extra £100 could be a birthday present for him as he isn't bothered about him paying it back.

We then had quite a big argument about this which resulted in him saying that he wouldn't put any money into the joint account at all (Because he finds it impossible to just communicate?).

Validation? 
How can I help him understand?
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