Your 12-year-old daughter is not behaving well lately. She goes out with friends and then fails to return home when she is supposed to. When you call her to find out where she is she makes up excuses and says that she's coming but never shows up. When she is more than ten hours late and it's 4 in the morning and you've called all her friends to find out where she is, you call the police. She is found the next day or the day after, but she won't talk to you and acts mad at you. She tells the police and the social worker that you treat her badly and don't let her go out with friends. The social worker tells you to back off and let your daughter do what she wants (that includes walk outside without supervision whenever she wants to).