My sister is throwing me a baby shower at a restuarant my friend owns. I'm not very close with this friend, but if it wasn't at her place I would still probably invite her because she's part of the group. She's going to have to work it. Do I still send her an invite? I don't want her to think I'm just looking for a gift from her (I'm not) but don't want her to think I'm not wanting her around.
Also, my boyfriend's boss is sort of throwing us a second shower. Basically it would be a free buffet, a deal on drinks and all tips go towards the baby. Obviously this one we are definetely not looking for gifts. How do you word the invites to reflect this? Or should there be no invites and just go by word of mouth?