TQC: My best friend has a bad habit of "dropping in" on people. My birthday was last Monday, so today she came up (she goes to school in NJ, I go to school in NY) to surprise visit me and stayed all day. We had lots of fun, naturally, but it wasn't the best time AT ALL to come. It's in the middle of finals. I have class tomorrow and a lot of work to do. I had also made plans to go to the movies with this boy that I've been too busy to see/had to cancel on previously, but because she came I had to call him to cancel/apologize profusely about an hour before we were set to go.
1.) How would you handle this? I don't want her to feel as if I don't value seeing her, but I need to find some tactful way of telling her that that isn't okay. 2.) Are you a "birthday" person? What do you typically do on your birthday? Do you like surprise parties?