I'm not entirely sure this makes sense, sorry if it doesn't.
I'm going to a wedding next weekend and I am going in on a gift with two of my friends. I paid for our hotel room, so instead of giving me money to cover their share of the room they are going to cover my share of the gift (the room is about $125 and we're spending about $120 on the gift, so it pretty much evens out). Originally it was just going to be me and one friend (friend A) buying the gift together, so we decided to get a $90 headboard from Target that was on the registry and have it shipped to the bride and groom's house. When our other friend (friend B) asked to go in on the gift with us I mentioned to friend A that we should get something else (this was before the headboard was ordered) that costs a bit more since it is from 3 people now. I had to explain to her that since we would each spend $40-$50 separately we should each contribute that to the gift and get something that costs $120-$150 (this is what my parents taught me anyway). Well, she went ahead and ordered the headboard on Saturday night anyway and then texted the next day to tell me. Today I told her that we should probably get a $50 gift card to Bed Bath and Beyond or some other place that sells bedding to go with the headboard, but she insisted that we spent enough. I tried again to tell her that 3 people should be spending at least $120 and she said that with shipping it was about $120, so we had spent enough. I feel like the cost of the item itself needs to be at least $120 and shipping doesn't count, but she disagrees. What do you think, tqc? Does shipping count as part of the $120 gift or do we need to get a gift card to go with the head board?