Am I a terrible person for not offering work friend a place to live?

A coworker I'm friendly with has to live extremely frugally - she had a bad divorce and had to quit a better-paying job for health reasons, went back to school for a 2-year degree and is now working full time and trying to save for her own place someday. So she's been renting a room from someone who owns a 2-bedroom condo. That person just let her know she has 60 days to get out, because their cousin is moving into the bedroom my coworker now occupies. She's willing to share again to keep expenses down, especially because rents here are rather high considering the rate of pay for many people.

I just bought a condo and moved in at the end of April. It's technically 3 bedrooms, but I sleep in one, use one for a home office, and the basement one is not furnished but will be a guest room when I buy some furniture in another year or so (I am not done furnishing the upstairs). There's another room downstairs I use for working out, since I'm no longer going to the gym regularly because covid. I've had a pretty rough time the past 5-6 years with a ongoing work stress, a divorce, a subsequent long-term relationship ending, my daughter dying traumatically, and then of course this pandemic, and I have lived in some shitty apartments that whole time. This is the first time I've owned my own home (my ex and I owned a house together and he wasn't great about sharing, like he had an office and I had no space of my own).

I truly don't want anyone in my home, not even a casual friend who pays rent, not even for the short term. My partner comes over a couple of evenings a week, but he doesn't stay - it's not his home, it's mine. I haven't even acquired a dog yet because I just need to be by myself, a lot. I offered to help my friend find a new place, and I offered to help her move. Am I a bad person for not offering her living space?

just one bite

I just saw a question online from someone passing through my area wanting to know where they can "get a quick bite to eat."

Why the hell is "a bite to eat" even a thing? Generally when I'm eating, several bites will happen during the process of getting that food in my belly.
harry potter

In Pain

If you hurt yourself (in a mild way, like stubbing your toe, or bumping your head off of something) do you make a sound?

Like "Ow!"  or "Ouch!" Do you say an expletive? Just grunt. Or mouth something.

Sometimes I say Ow! or just mouth it

Poll #2112134 Do you make a sound whe mildly hurt?

Do you make a sound?

Yes. Ow or Ouch.
Yes. An expletive.
Just grunt.
No. I mouth something.

Exes and oh oh ohhh’ssssss

Do you have contact with any of your exes? Not necessarily the person you just recently broke up with…more like someone you dated in highschool/college and into your twenties/thirties? Without some circumstance that demands you be in contact? I’m not talking Facebook friends with every person you ever went on a date with here.
My children’s father (we never married although we were engaged before I I got pregnant) are pretty good friends, he calls me to vent when he and his current girlfriend have an issue (which is always a bit weird for me)
My ex from college (first love material) have had an ongoing text message conversation going on for years. We pretty much text random stuff, he’s turning it into a tik tok, it’s all whacky shit…while we do occasionally share personal information, it’s mostly jokes, I am very happy for this communication, we literally have not seen each other for twenty years and have been texting for like, 7…(is that weird??)
I’m on good terms with any of my exes…some I run into on occasion, we hug and commiserate briefly…but baby daddy and college boy are the only ones I’m in regular contact with
Is this weird? (I don’t think baby daddy friendship is weird at all, I’m glad we are friends, I like his girlfriend and think it would be terrible if we didn’t get along, and I realize that I help his ego out when he’s on the outs with gf). As for college boy…it’s not so bad to be in touch, we live in different parts of the country and it’s nice to joke AND to be in contact with someone who knew me during those formative years. And yes, I would marry him in a hot second, I also know it ain’t happening.
So how do you deal with exes? Or do you just not deal with any exes? Or can you tell me the secrets to happiness since you know so much?
Uh Oh

Data Is As Data Does

Hi peeps, when was the last time you backed up your computer/files/etc?

How do you back-up your computer/files/etc?

I'm just coming back from two data disasters a week apart--our NAS (network attached storage) had two drives fail and then the SSD in my desktop failed (but the data was recovered, whew!)

Let's share and hopefully everyone can learn from our mistakes or good back-up practices :-D

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Would you rather enjoy some series of things (ie. movies, music, food, books, etc.)...

from best to worst, knowing that each successive item will be something less to look forward to?
from worst to best, know it will just keep getting better, but something may happen so that you never get to experience the very best?
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    ambient grocery store music...maybe Madonna

Theft in isle 4.

If you saw somone shoplifting, would you tell someone (checkout clerk, manager)?

Poll #2111765 Would you report a shoplifter, if you saw them do it?

Would you report them?

Depends on what they take
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    curious curious