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[empress_nikki]
How come I feel incredibly guilty about calling in sick to work when I am a) actually incredibly ill with a stomach thing and b) actually incredibly ill with a stomach thing and have a job in food service?

What do you do to feel better when you stay home sick? 
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[User Picture]From: unearthingbone
2013-02-22 11:42 am (UTC)

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i am getting ready to go back to work today after two sick days with a nasty virus thing and i *always* feel incredibly guilty when i call in sick to work. no matter how sick i am. i hope you feel better and feel less guilt - as my friends tell me, you're sick! take it easy. work can wait.
[User Picture]From: woodland
2013-02-22 11:44 am (UTC)

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i am at work today with an incredibly painful migraine, didn't want to call in sick even though i can barely see because i felt guilty about it :(
i normally try to get out for a walk, even a short one, because fresh air makes me feel better.
[User Picture]From: oneworldvision
2013-02-22 12:07 pm (UTC)

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If your workplace is anything like mine, you probably feel guilty because you know they didn't schedule enough people to begin with and there won't be anyone to replace you. The thing to remember is, unless you personally made the schedule, none of that is your fault or your problem. If your workplace is nothing like mine, then idk.

I like to watch movies I've seen a million times, so that I don't miss anything if I drift in and out of sleep. Other than that I just spend lots of time on the internet to distract myself from how miserable I feel.
[User Picture]From: empress_nikki
2013-02-23 02:48 am (UTC)

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They'll replace me, but I feel bad that I'm taking a day off away from someone, especially at short notice.
[User Picture]From: lupinlover
2013-02-22 12:13 pm (UTC)

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You have a good work ethic and don't like being unable to honor your commitments.
[User Picture]From: futurenurselady
2013-02-22 12:35 pm (UTC)

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I want to say thank you for calling out of work.

It's very responsible of you, and I wish more food service workers would get paid sick days. No one should have to serve food while sick.
[User Picture]From: empress_nikki
2013-02-23 02:48 am (UTC)

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Paid sick days would be the best, but possibly make me feel more guilty about calling off sick...
[User Picture]From: hereisfar
2013-02-22 12:36 pm (UTC)

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You have good work ethic, you are afraid of looking irresponsible to your superiors, you don't want to miss a shift of pay, you feel badly other employees might have to pick up your slack, and you feel pressure to work through any circumstance (whether that is pressure you put on yourself, pressure your boss puts on you, or the pressure from society to "work unless you are in the hospital."

I feel very guilty when I stay home from work even if it is for a valid reason. I don't know how to turn it off, even though I can pinpoint exactly what causes the guilt.

When I stay home sick I get as much rest as I can and watch my guilty pleasure television shows/youtube channels. I take a bath, light candles, take over the counter medication to alleviate my symptoms, and try to sleep so I can heal. I'm sorry you're not feeling well :(
[User Picture]From: saintwithasw0rd
2013-02-22 02:21 pm (UTC)

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I don't know why you feel guilty.

I take a lot of baths and showers.

Hope you feel better soon!
[User Picture]From: spiltmemory
2013-02-22 02:50 pm (UTC)

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everyone has already said it. you have a good work ethic, you might be feeling vunerable in your position (that they might fire you), that you didn't want to let other people down, or put extra work on other people, maybe you feel that you are not "sick enough" (and that some people drag their asses in when they are in their death beds, and then share those germs), and that people wouldn't catch it, or whatever. but honestly, you did the right thing. i wish that everyone working could call in and feel secure in their job when they are ligatimatly sick with things that are potentially contagious. i know that i'd personally feel angry if you worked with me, and came in regardless of your sickness to share it with me (i'd also understand that maybe people HAVE TO, and cant afford time off, but i feel angry with the system because it means that i'll potentially get ill, and then i cant work also) and the customers. you also wouldn't be able to work properally if your ill, and could just make yourself sicker. where i was working and incharge of staffing, i use to love it when people called in with sickness instead of comming in and making everyone sick too. i'd try to orgainse everything so people still had the same hours, just at different times. but i think because of the nature of the people and bisness, that was a bit easier than in general. but i use to crack the shits if people came in ill, and i had to send them home.
[User Picture]From: buncha_cruncha
2013-02-22 03:04 pm (UTC)

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I always feel guilty, too! My boss had to tell me to stop saying "I'm sorry" last time I came back from being sick, lol. Just remember -- if you're really sick like that, everyone there would be glad you're staying home, too. They don't want to be around that!

Rest! Veg on the couch with a blanket and Netflix/Hulu. Drink a LOT of fluids.
[User Picture]From: marievignette
2013-02-22 03:25 pm (UTC)

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because in jobs like foodservice and retail (and maybe others but i've only had jobs in these) you don't exactly get pto or sick days and you know that even though you're replaceable they have to call around to get someone to replace you, IF anyone will... and you know that if they can't it will be harder on everyone there. i've found that i feel massively guilty no matter what's wrong with me, and my manager gets snotty even if it is something worth calling off about. i had to convince her not to fire one of the best hires we had from the seasonal batch because she didn't like that the hire kept calling off (with a doctors note!!) sick /going home vomiting! not the poor girls fault! basically you have to stop thinking about how you're calling off and think about ANYTHING else, and keep your mind busy! it's not your fault you're sick, and if you go in while you are you'll just get someone else sick.
[User Picture]From: ohohmeaghan
2013-02-22 03:43 pm (UTC)

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you can overcome your strong work ethic guilt by thinking of how much worse you'd feel if someone you served caught your bug. it's hard to feel like you let your job down, but it's the best thing to do right now.

sleep or eat, depending on what is ailing me.
[User Picture]From: empress_nikki
2013-02-23 02:49 am (UTC)

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That is definitely true. Or if the people I'm working with who really, genuinely cannot afford the time off caught it.
[User Picture]From: jennybliss
2013-02-22 04:14 pm (UTC)

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I have a hypochondriac for a coworker. I just think about the fact that if I go in sick she will get sick. Then she will complain until she gets better that I got her sick, and she takes longer than anyone I know to get better. I stay home for my own sanity.
[User Picture]From: anchellada
2013-02-22 04:22 pm (UTC)

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sometimes i feel guilty because at my one job theres only really 2 of us in the office and if one of us is out it can get crazy and stressful and overwhelming. we help each other a lot so yeah it kinda sucks when the other is out. i rarely call out of my part time job because they make us have to find someone to replace us no matter what or we're in trouble. its fair in most instances, but its a real hassle so i dont even bother.

clean, do things ive been putting off, watch movies ive already seen, nap, get shit done, etc.
[User Picture]From: dudewhatthefuuu
2013-02-22 06:07 pm (UTC)

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I don't feel guilty calling in sick, but I get anxiety at how my boss will react.

Besides that, I dread how much work I'm going to have the following day since there's no one who would cover for me if I just took one day off.
[User Picture]From: z_o_e
2013-02-22 06:51 pm (UTC)

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Thank you for calling in. I was just thinking about that this morning when I was getting breakfast from my work cafe, and one of the people making the food was coughing up a storm.
[User Picture]From: xinsomnia
2013-02-22 07:11 pm (UTC)

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I feel like that the guilt you feel probably comes from management, because that's the case for me! No matter how sick I am, my manager makes me feel like I'm a horrible person and probably COULD have come to work if I was just a little more dedicated.

Stay in bed and watch tv/movies.