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What would you do if somebody you love gave you an item of clothing as a present, but it looked terrible on you? Would you wear it anyway? Donate it? Tell them it doesn't suit you?

I'm cleaning out my closet, and I found a dress my boyfriend gave me about two years ago. It's a lovely dress, and I feel bad about never wearing it, but it's just a completely bizarre fit on me. He has given me lots of other clothes and jewellery etc which I wear a lot, but this just doesn't work. I think he's forgotten about it.
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[User Picture]From: kikkyo
2013-02-18 12:52 am (UTC)

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I think you should be fine if he's forgotten about it. I doubt he'd expect you to wear it at this point.
[User Picture]From: oneworldvision
2013-02-18 12:52 am (UTC)

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It would probably live in the back of my closet for a while and then get donated. After two years it's definitely time to toss it; if he hasn't noticed you not wearing it by now then he'll never notice it's gone.
[User Picture]From: jejuneraccoon
2013-02-18 12:57 am (UTC)

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I'd discreetly get rid of it. For me, holding onto things I don't want, need or like just because they were gifts becomes a burden. Not only do these items take up physical space, but I'm also burdened with having to maintain the item (cleaning it, putting it in its rightful place, fixing it if it breaks, accounting for it if I move, etc.). I'd handle special items like heirlooms differently, but it sounds like the dress you described wasn't anything with that sort of significance.
[User Picture]From: sicher
2013-02-18 01:05 am (UTC)

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I'd donate it, and if they asked why I'd tell them it didn't fit me.
[User Picture]From: verygwen
2013-02-18 01:22 am (UTC)

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I'd return it.

From two years ago, I'd donate it.
[User Picture]From: dragonflyinlove
2013-02-18 01:24 am (UTC)

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I would probably throw out a "Hey, this dress...I dont wear it because it fits weird...you cool if I donate it?"

And then do so...because my husband could give two shits.

If it was a non-significant other I would not bother asking.
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2013-02-18 01:42 am (UTC)

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LOL my mom did this...she brought me 3 shirts and a belt from her trip to Italy. Oh gosh...well...the belt was too large so i gave it to a coworker. I kept the three shirts. I havent worn them at all. I keep thinking i should donate them or give them to a friend but theyre not really all that cute to begin with....I dont wear them, but I did accept them and express my thanks. One day down the road ill tell her they looked awful on me, its not like she could return them anyway, and itll be a thing we think of in the past haha
[User Picture]From: plugmebaby
2013-02-18 01:45 am (UTC)

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nah i wouldnt wear it, i'd tell my SO.
i got my SO a shirt for his bday which was a risk cause we both have very different tastes. yeah he only wore it once to a xmas party, but i dont think its his style. i told him when i gave it to him that if he didnt like it, he could exchange it, but he said he'd rather keep it. he's the kind of guy where, it's more about the thought that matters rather than what is actually given.
[User Picture]From: heyfashion
2013-02-18 01:52 am (UTC)

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I'd return it/sell it/donate it without telling them.
[User Picture]From: saikaro_x
2013-02-18 01:53 am (UTC)

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I would tell them straight up that it doesn't suit you. I'd something like, "I honestly love the dress but it just doesn't look good on me."
[User Picture]From: spiffle
2013-02-18 02:14 am (UTC)

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Give it away, especially after 2 years without wear, I think he'd have already come to the conclusion that you just didn't like/suit it.

In future I would tell them straight out; "hey, look at this dress on me, doesn't it look weird?/toobig/toosmall? Let's go back to the store you brought it at and exchange it~!"
[User Picture]From: crazy_alexy
2013-02-18 03:22 am (UTC)

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If you've been together that long, I think he'll understand if you tell him that it doesn't fit you properly and you donate it.
From: saloonperfume
2013-02-18 06:40 am (UTC)

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I'm curious, what does the dress look like?
[User Picture]From: shevmak
2013-02-18 08:31 am (UTC)

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Me personally I would just wear it, I don't really follow fashion and I don't mind how I look most days. Normally I wear a union shirt and a skirt that comes just above my knees.

For your situation however, I would donate the dress, no point keeping things you're not using! my mum is a bit of a hoarder that way and I hate it. If I'm not using something or haven't worn it in ages, it gets tossed.
[User Picture]From: woodland
2013-02-18 09:40 am (UTC)

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my friend has done this a couple times. i wear the item perhaps once, around her, when it's just us so i know no-one else see's it, then i generally keep it for a year in the wardrobe in case she asks about it, then give it to charity.

if it was my SO though he's likely to keep the receipt so i'd probably have exchanged it.
[User Picture]From: monotonousglory
2013-02-18 10:31 am (UTC)

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bury it at the back of my cupboard but never throw it out just in case!
[User Picture]From: iguanasdefuego
2013-02-18 03:24 pm (UTC)

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I would probably try to refashion it. My mother in law gave me a dress that was one of those tube shaped dresses with a ton of ruching at the top to scrunch it up and make it fit and a ribbon to make it a halter top. The ribbon halter gave me a headache, the dress fell down without the ribbon tied and it didn't look that great on me. So I chopped off the top, finished the seam and made it an infinity scarf!
[User Picture]From: mr_sadhead
2013-02-18 03:45 pm (UTC)

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Wear it once and get it terminally stained. Oops, I dropped my ice cream!

On a tangent, I went looking for this song at Xmastime but have only just found it.