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[shechoselove]
What tips or advice would you give someone who, after getting out of a long-term relationship, claims that s/he "doesn't know how to be single anymore"?
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[User Picture]From: velloso21
2013-02-15 04:53 am (UTC)

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Take it one day at a time. Spend time with friends and family. Do things that you like to do.
[User Picture]From: x3_molly
2013-02-15 05:32 am (UTC)

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I agree with this, and especially like the "take it one day at a time" part!
[User Picture]From: acidrain
2013-02-15 04:54 am (UTC)

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just be a person?
[User Picture]From: opheliaheart
2013-02-15 04:55 am (UTC)

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reconnect with friends, try a hobby, get busy with life, try yoga iddddk
[User Picture]From: fancy_sheets
2013-02-15 05:27 am (UTC)

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solitary confinement
[User Picture]From: gabardinedreams
2013-02-15 05:30 am (UTC)

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I think it just takes time. Jumping into dating/a new relationship right away is just a temporary comfort.. oxytocin withdrawals and whatnot. Once you let yourself get over it you get back in the swing of things. You don't need to define yourself as "single," just do your own shit and the rest will come.
[User Picture]From: sblmnldrknss
2013-02-15 02:11 pm (UTC)

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This is the first thing that came to my mind, too.
[User Picture]From: blkrabbitofinle
2013-02-15 07:01 am (UTC)

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What exactly doesn't she know how to do? Is she having trouble sleeping? Is she anxious when going out? It's not like the actual act of being single requires conscious effort or knowledge. :p
[User Picture]From: spiltmemory
2013-02-15 07:17 am (UTC)

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that this is a great time to learn. and to be gentle with themselves.
From: blue_sky_day
2013-02-15 12:10 pm (UTC)

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Tell her take at least a month before starting to date again.
[User Picture]From: heyfashion
2013-02-15 01:35 pm (UTC)

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Of course they know how to be single, they are already doing it. If what they mean is they don't know what to do with their time, they'll figure it out. I would just suggest to them to spend more time with friends, try new hobbies, etc.
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2013-02-15 02:42 pm (UTC)

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Learn to be with yourself, love yourself, appreciate yourself, have confidence in yourself, and enjoy your own company. You come first, even in a relationship, so while not treat yourself to some self-rejuvination and self-lovin' and self-soothing for now. Focus on you. Do things you enjoy. Eat things you enjoy. Talk to people you enjoy. Just be you.
[User Picture]From: faecat
2013-02-15 02:47 pm (UTC)

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That doesn't even make any sense. Step one: don't get into another relationship for a while. It's not rocket science :-P
[User Picture]From: shechoselove
2013-02-16 07:31 am (UTC)

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I think I'll be slightly more gentle with her.
[User Picture]From: kmeghan
2013-02-17 12:50 am (UTC)

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I was going to say this as well.. but I hopefully softened it up. :)
[User Picture]From: paige_nevaeh
2013-02-15 06:33 pm (UTC)

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Girly cocktail nights. Get a hobby? When I broke up with my ex after a year I got into a lot of "group" exercise classes. Stuff like zumba.

Get a cat.
[User Picture]From: kmeghan
2013-02-17 12:50 am (UTC)

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tell her to not worry about trying to find someone new. She needs time to be herself and find things that make her happy. Try new hobbies, hang out with old friends, etc.