This guy at work kept complaining about how he doesn't get enough hours, despite the fact that literally every aspect of his life besides his keg fund is paid for by his parents. You don't need 20+ hours a week to fund your occasional weed habit dude, stop stealing hours from people who actually know what it means to need them.
America needs neither of those things tbh
I think they're saying that people who don't beat their kids enough result in kids growing up to be mentally unbalanced and dangerous.
In other words, the person who posted that is an idiot.
Yup. Because there's nothing like violence against children to show that violence is wrong.
My grandparents sent my brother and I to California last spring and despite them paying for it, I still felt like it was A LOT of money for our airfare, hotel, amusement park tickets, etc. I probably complained about it a time or two and I didn't pay for ANY of it.
I do think that over the years people have gotten really lax in disciplining their children, but I in no way think it's the cause of all the violence.
Do you feel that a lack of child discipline can lead in an increased chance of aberrant behavior, including violence, as the child grows up?
I'm trying to separate discipline from corporeal punishment/child beatings.
The only time I approve of physically disciplining a child is a swift swat on the ass if they do something that puts them in immediate danger, like bolting out in to traffic. However, most of the children that grow up to do dangerous and violent things are the same kids that could have benefited from some kind of therapy and more structure in their lives (a regular schedule), not more discipline. I find the ones who had parents lacking in discipline end up being the spoiled, entitled types who except everything to be handed to them.
Edited at 2013-02-06 06:30 pm (UTC)
I'd hope you agree discipline \= spanking.
I can think of one or two instances where a single swift swat on the ass is ok, like if the child tries to bolt in to traffic or something. But, I never approve of the bend you over the knee kind of spankings. Ever.
that makes sense. but I guess what I was trying to be clear about is that discipline incorporates a whole lot of methods above and beyond spanking, and it concerns me because I've known parents who call spanking discipline when what they really mean is punishment.
iow, discipline and punishment are not synonymous to me either.
Every time someone tries to use this line of reasoning, all I can think is, "Billy! Running out in traffic is dangerous! Don't you know you could have been HURT?" *Whack*
Makes. No. Sense.
makes perfect sense if you swap your mindset to "running into traffic DOES hurt you"
Really? Because that's exactly what my mother did to my sister who knew not to do that and did it anyway. She was attempting to show off, but was still short enough that a car probably never would have seen her.
One swift smack on the ass, followed by a hug and exasperated explanation. My sister never did it again.
A child doesn't understand the full implications of death or automobiles, but they understand they didn't impress anyone and their butt hurts.
Cool story. I still think it's ridiculous.
Well you're free to raise your children however you want.
Travel costs are ridiculous, I can understand why she is complaining, even if she is not paying for most of it. I have complained about the cost of flying and i'm not even going anywhere!
My sister's boyfriend has been complaining about me because I tell her news before he gets the chance to, so when he does tell her something like "oh did you hear, there's gonna be a playstation 4" and she responds "yeah, my sister already told me" he ends up bitching for 20 minutes.
Well, when I hear about a teenager running Amok in the US again I inevitably think if people should have done something different in raising them. That MAY include one or the other smack around the ears at the right time but I seriously doubt that would reduce the shootings.
If your friend complains about the prices either she's feeling sorry for her parents paying that much or she tries to show off their wealth.
Yes, I usually eye-roll when US-Americans complain about how hard it is to get a gun these days, or ammo, or how unfair it is to limit access to deadly military grade weapons for everyone just because a few hundred kids die every now and then. That makes me eye-roll indeed.
Edited at 2013-02-06 04:20 pm (UTC)
On the plus side, the intense pro-gun people make it easier to narrow down our facebook friend lists.
Took a girlfriend (no car) grocery shopping the other day. She complained about only having $22 for groceries because she didnt have any money in her savings or checking and $22 was all her BF could give her (cash he had on him) and that she didnt have any money because she hadnt bothered to apply for student loans yet.
I always applied for student loans as soon as I could. It takes so long after the semester starts for everything to get sorted, it's not worth it to wait.
So did i! I wouldnt have mind giving her money if she had just forgotten or had complications but she was like 'the process just takes soooooo long and its so boring, i just cant ever remember to do it...i hate it! It should be easier! More automated!' I was like :S
It takes even longer once the semester starts, though! I had to appeal a student loan once and it took three months for them to re-grant me one, haha. It was insane! If I apply in August, then I'll have my loan by the first day of classes... it's really a no-brainer (or so I thought!).
My mom and my sister, both teachers, like to call me and complain about snow days. I get that they have to make them up, but as the only member of the immediate family who is still in higher education and is not herself an educator, I don't get snow days. I get to trudge to the bus stop and get my ass to class no matter how much snow we've gotten.
And they like to complain that I only have class three days a week and they have it five, even after I remind them that I am paying to have class three days a week and they are being paid to have class five days a week.
There's a big disconnect between me, the professional student, and the rest of my family when it comes to who has it made with their education situation.