-not having to look attractive for anyone but myself
-not worrying about what someone else thinks
-not wondering will it end/how do I end it?
not wondering will it end/how do I end it?
This is such a good one. Even when my relationships were going well, that thought still crossed my mind on occasion.
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1. being accountable to no one but me.
2. doing whatever I felt like whenever and in whatever way I wanted to do it.
3. needing to consult no one else on decisions.
4. watching and listening to whatever I liked when I wanted to.
5. I mostly liked having a bed to myself too. in an ideal world, I'd sleep with a partner on about a 60/40 split.
Agree so much with having your own bed! We use separate blankets, so at least no fighting for cover.
I got to spend a lot of time with my family.
I went out partying a lot more.
IT WAS A LOT CHEAPER gd being in a relationship is so expensive.
Doing what I want when I want. For example, tonight I really wanted to take a nap and THEN get up and eat dinner and maybe stay up until 1-2 a.m. But I am a married mom. I don't get to do that.
doing whatever the hell i wanted all the time and not being considered selfish. like if i want chinese food for dinner, i ordered chinese food. in a relationship you have to agree on dinner. and what movies to go see, what bars to go to, where to go on vacation, etc.
compromise isnt a big deal, but its nice when you never have to.
not getting judged. in a relationship the person gets to know you super well. and if youre with them long enough its inevitable they see you are times when youre...not at your best. when youre single, sometimes those not at your best moments are more or less off the record. like theres no one else to document, so you get to keep that shit to yourself.
Definitely doing what I want, whenever the mood strikes me.
i loved having the freedom to do things without checking in or wanting approval...or feeling like i was cheating someone or burderning them if i wanted to be considered irresponsible by some. i liked going out downtown...at night...with my friends. don't do that much anymore.
Being able to imagine myself perfect.
Being alone. I adore my husband, he's my best (and one of my oldest, for that matter) friend. I love hanging out with him. But one thing I truly loved about being a single parent was that precious hour both before the kids wake up, and after they go to sleep. Not having to work around anyone, talk, worry about their needs, etc. I'd just curl up and read or watch whatever stupid movie or show I wanted to, without taking anyone else's feelings into consideration. Something about curling up in my comfy chair in the living room with just my light on, maybe some Leo Kottke playing in the background ... it's nice.
When I was married to my first husband, a trubiz deadbeat, I was amazed at how peaceful my house was, and how easy it was to just clean up after myself and my children. I remember a (stupid) fight we had once, about him picking up his dirty drawers and putting them in the clothes hamper. I really don't mind doing laundry, but going around finding and picking up dirty unders just made me insane. I asked (okay, yelled at) him, what did he think, some magic boxer fairy was going around replenishing his underwear drawer?! This is but one example.
My now-husband, however, is in the service, so I generally get far more alone time than I would prefer.
Also, not shaving.
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I really don't like anything about being single right now.
Idk I'm trying to figure that out right now :/
not having to talk on the phone all the time, not having to always stay in contact with someone if I just feel like being alone for a few days
I miss my alone time
I also wish I didn't feel pressure to shave every single day..
Being able to put your needs first without feeling bad about it
Not feeling responsible for anyone else's feelings. I love being able to do my own thing and hibernate if I want to without having to worry that someone's going to get upset that I just want to be by myself.
not being called names or made to feel worthless because i don't have a job. not being called a nag for wanting to take care of problems that could land my bf in jail. that's about it.
Butterflies/crushes on new people/the chance for something new.
A home of my own! With no messes that aren't MINE!
I can do whatever I want whenever I want.
Making out with random guys.
But mostly the doing what I want when I want to thing.
-Being more motivated to look attractive (through exercising and diet)
-Being able to get with whoever I want, basically
-Not fretting over changing something about my boyfriend
-Being way more open and accepting than I used to be (ever since my boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me I've been a completely different person, and I kind of love it)
Not having to check in with anybody. That's probably one of my biggest issues about dating.
To quote a Judy Garland song, "I'm sure that love's an overrated past time. It's the last time I'll ever be anything but fancy free."
Me time all the time.
1. Being able to do what I wanted when I wanted.
2. Not caring about if someone hurt my feelings.
3. The golden silence.
4. My own space.
5. Being as messy/as neat as I absolutely wanted to be with no judgement.
6. Not having to say no to every single thing someone invites me to. Because I do have to usually.
7. No worrying about feeling appreciated or if they even care to notice everything I do for them. I do a lot. It's exhausting. I don't mind, but when I'm made to feel like I'm not doing enough, that's not okay.
8. My friends and family.
9. Plus everything else everyone has sad.
And I'll stop there because then I'll start looking ridiculous and pathetic. one of those Mondays!
hard to say, because i like just about everything better in a relationship than i did when i was single.
but a few things i guess were better:
-my weekends were more open and i did a wider variety of things
-not feeling guilty about chatting with dudes in bars and letting them buy me drinks (i let a guy buy me a few drinks once after i was already in a relationship, and even though the situation was totally innocent and casual, i still felt sneaky).
-i ate healthier when i was single (bf loves fatty food and i do too; it's harder to avoid it when we're eating together and i know i'll get jealous if his food looks tastier than mine)
Not having to share my space, or worry about having a cleanish place.
Wearing comfy underwear all day, errday.
No Shave November continues throughout the year.
More time to myself and with my friends. And sometimes with my homework.