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[lunasoltierra]
My new roommate is crying in her room.  What should I do? What should I say? Should I leave her alone?
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[User Picture]From: velloso21
2013-01-28 01:08 am (UTC)

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Do you know why she is crying?

Maybe just a quick knock on the door and ask if everything is ok and if there is anything you can do. If she says no, leave her alone.
[User Picture]From: lunasoltierra
2013-01-28 01:12 am (UTC)

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No I don't.
[User Picture]From: jaelle_n_gilla
2013-01-28 09:29 am (UTC)

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Yes, I'd do just that.
[User Picture]From: lierre
2013-01-28 02:28 pm (UTC)

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whoops I first read that as:

"is everything ok?"
"no."
*leaves her alone*
[User Picture]From: ms_mmelissa
2013-01-28 01:09 am (UTC)

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Knock on her door and ask her if she's okay and if she needs anything. If she says no then just leave her in peace.
[User Picture]From: noodledays
2013-01-28 01:11 am (UTC)

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I would knock on her door and ask her to let you know if she needed anything or just someone to sit with her.
[User Picture]From: yes_justice
2013-01-28 01:22 am (UTC)

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And some tissues.
[User Picture]From: mick
2013-01-28 01:14 am (UTC)

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don't leave her alone :( i mean if she says that she doesn't want to talk about it or something, then you can, but don't just ignore it. i agree with everyone else, knock on her door and gently ask if she's alright.
[User Picture]From: bad_lcuk
2013-01-28 01:22 am (UTC)

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Knock quickly and ask if you can get her anything, if she says no, leave it alone.
[User Picture]From: rocketfuel__
2013-01-28 01:31 am (UTC)

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I'd make her a cup of tea, but I'm British and that's what we do.
[User Picture]From: miss_almost
2013-01-28 01:45 am (UTC)

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i ♥ this comment.
[User Picture]From: nynaeve_sedai
2013-01-28 02:29 am (UTC)

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I'm not British, but a cup of tea would totally make me feel better :D
From: saloonperfume
2013-01-28 04:01 am (UTC)

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lololol
[User Picture]From: paige_nevaeh
2013-01-28 10:32 am (UTC)

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I was going to say this.
Tea solves the world's problems.
[User Picture]From: chaostrophy
2013-01-28 01:33 am (UTC)

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Leave her alone. Pretend it didn't happen. Don't bring it up.
[User Picture]From: smartaleckstef
2013-01-28 01:34 am (UTC)

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You could knock on her door and ask "can i get you anything?" or offer a glass of water.
I feel like you should say something
[User Picture]From: kaelstra
2013-01-28 01:37 am (UTC)

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I'd knock and ask if she needs anything, "Are you alright?" etc, and she may wave you off, in which case, leave it be and don't bring it up again.
[User Picture]From: semi_sweet
2013-01-28 01:54 am (UTC)

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bake some brownies or cookies. then when she is ready to talk, brownies will make everything better (well maybe). but in the mean time I'd jsut let her be. sometimes you just need to cry!
[User Picture]From: claddaghemerald
2013-01-28 02:06 am (UTC)

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Solid strategy.
[User Picture]From: kafkaesque
2013-01-28 02:09 am (UTC)

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ask if she's ok and say you're there to talk but if she wants space let her have it. i hope she's alright!
[User Picture]From: saikaro_x
2013-01-28 02:41 am (UTC)

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I agree with the above comments; knock on her door and ask if she's ok and if there's anything you can do.
[User Picture]From: verygwen
2013-01-28 03:33 am (UTC)

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Knock on the door and ask if she's okay.
[User Picture]From: drowningmermaid
2013-01-28 04:19 am (UTC)

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lightly knock on the door. "if you need to talk, I'm here. In the meantime, do you need some tissue?"

[User Picture]From: 911pleasehold
2013-01-28 04:25 am (UTC)

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"I heard you crying, I'm here if you need anything." Maybe offer her some dinner or wine or something.
[User Picture]From: geiselle
2013-01-28 01:48 pm (UTC)

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Are you friends or have you just met her? If it's the latter, I'd leave her alone. It's awkward enough moving into a new house with new people. Knowing that they heard you crying would be really embarrassing and make the adjustment harder, at least temporarily. Maybe be extra welcoming/friendly the next day, though -- subtly let her know that you're fine having her there and open to being her friend/confidant/support.
[User Picture]From: hajiomatic
2013-01-28 03:47 pm (UTC)

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bring her a glass of wine
[User Picture]From: saya_cintamu
2013-01-28 03:48 pm (UTC)

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probably too after the fact, but i would knock and bring her a glass of water. my old roommate heard me crying in my room once, and he knocked and brought me a beer, and it really was the nicest gesture.
[User Picture]From: koalatycontrol
2013-01-28 04:10 pm (UTC)

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I'd ask her if she is okay and if she needs anything, then let her know there's a massive bottle of red in the kitchen that I probably shouldn't drink all by myself.

edited for questionable grammar.

Edited at 2013-01-28 04:19 pm (UTC)
[User Picture]From: monotonousglory
2013-01-29 03:45 am (UTC)

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unless you caused it i would leave her the fuck alone
i fucking hate people getting all up in my business when i'm crying