Ugh! My boyfriend's sister was dating this guy for 3ish years. She decided she wanted an engagement ring this Christmas (but, no, she didn't talk to the boyfriend about it). She didn't get it so she cheated on him, twice, and had a third guy sleep over for a night (but claims nothing happened there). Then, finally, she dumped the long term boyfriend, citing his "weight gain" and how his interests are "boring." Then she got pissed at him because he broke the plans they had (prior to her dumping him) for him to take her out this weekend. She's been ranting and raving about how he went to a baseball game with his "fat friend" who isn't nearly as pretty as she is and so forth...
Oh, did I mention his mother died last month? For me, this would factor heavily into engagement plans.
I know none of this is even my business but I can't even look the girl in the eye, I find her so disgusting.
That's because she IS disgusting. What the hell. She should be judged.
Uh you are completely utterly right to judge her here
I think of being judgmental is talking crap about someone you don't really know. Or judging based on looks.
But this shows actions I would say this isn't judging this is calling it was it is.
She really is disgusting by how she acts. That's not judging that's the truth.
I have to be honest, I'd be judging her pretty hard too. The way she acted is disgusting, especially with the recent death.
Oh you bet!!! I try to generally be a good person but here are some certain people/friends/acquaintances that always get to me:
People who spend (in my opinion) on totally non-essential things and then complain about not being able to afford their essentials (like rent, or the ability to get to their job via car or bus). Especially when I KNOW the person has spent money on something (like drinking) then didnt pay their phone bill (for months). I have one friend who regularly doesnt pay her phone bill (she waits about 4-5 months then pays it in a lump sum loan she begs off of people) but regularly spends money on buying premade dinners (wont cook), going out on the weekend (cab to and from bar, drinks, etc), and new clothes (not expensive clothes, mind you, but she has a lot of them!).
People who think spending money on pet health is a waste of money. Yeah, i know your dog was $30 from the SPCA, yeah i know its just a dog and yeah i know thats the cheapest brand of food at Walmart, but I know youre choosing to do that because you think a dog should not have money spent on it. I know you are not struggling, I know you didnt save that dog because you wanted the dog to have a better life, I know you just expect the dog to pass and youll get another one. I know when your last dog got sick you just shot it, and that its easy to get another, but really? Can you not just buy a slightly more expensive bag of better food from costco?
People who say they are a feminist and put down other females for various reasons. One recent post on FB i mentioned here was one girl saying how some "granola hippy feminist" got all up on her about wearing a low cut top and going to the gym. She said that you can be a feminist no matter how you look or what you chose, and that she does this for herself. Thats cool. Then she went on to berate this other girl for smelling 'like a garbage can', not brushing her hair, and not shaving under her arms. Its only ok if you approve of it, right? Thats super nice.
I get a bit judgey about the money thing too. I mean, it's fine if that's the choice they make (splurging on non-essentials vs. paying bills for example) but honestly, if they are choosing that then I don't want to hear them complaining about not having any money to pay the bills. :|
Yeah, thats definitely the judging part for me. I dont care if you are sleeping in your car so you can afford to drive an Aston Martin, but if youre going to start complaining i have a perfectly comfortable couch under a perfectly reasonable roof i could offer, ill then start judging...
Ugh yes about the pets! My long time friend will have these maternal break downs at Petco. She has a one bedroom apartment I don't find suitable for a fish let alone a cat or dog or all of the above. She works all day and goes out all night. They shit the apartment up and are in need of attention. Four weeks in she gives them away to friends etc. My mother talks shit to me because I spend about $65 a bag of dog food for my dog. I have a German Shepard who I researched the future common problems. And also other various factors. Dog food is a very large factor in common dog problems. When ever my dog is brought up in converstation around my mother she has to coin in "Do you know how much she spend on that old dog? She spends alone $65 on a BAG of dog food."
Ugh I hate when people do that! I've started telling my mother (who says the same thing about me buying Blue Buffalo) that at least half of my dog's food doesn't end up on the ground literally as crap. They eat less of it and their bodies use more of it, so as far as nutrition for the price, it's probably about the same or even better! But you can't convince some people of that.
Ugh the worst part is generally you feed less so it actually costs generally the same/less per serving!!! I moved from Boka to Orijen and it only costs me $0.02 c per feeding because i feed less...Boka isnt awful but my dog was put on it as a puppy (higher quality made her have runny stools). When people find out my bag costs similar or more to yours then theyre like WHUT but you feed so much less!!!!!
I feel terrible about it, but I have a hard time not judging my younger sister. She expects to be handed everything in life, and she usually is. She knew for weeks that her place of employment was closing, and did nothing about it. Her work place closed, and she posted on facebook "I need another job" and the next day her friend hooked her up with one. Then she posted "God, I wish I had a keurig" and some one gave her one. Frankly, it pisses me off because when I want things, I have to scrimp and save for every little cent. Hell, I've been putting off major surgery for months now. But, she needs dental surgery, and Oh, what do you know, a different friend convinced the dentist they work for to do it for 1/4 of the price. BLARG! Its very hard for me to not think of her as a spoiled brat because she's never had to work hard for ANYTHING in her life.
I think the reason this bothers me the most is that she's constantly complaining about how hard her life is.
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I totally get your frustration with the circumstance. It's like she's not doing anything wrong but it's just so damn easy for her and that has got to get annoying as fuck.
YES! That's exactly it! I mean I love her to death, and she's my sister and all. But fuck. Really?! Can't I get a little good luck now and then?
Well, if you ever need something I can spare I'd help you out... but all I have to spare is basil plants and empty soda bottles... if you need either of those things! I do hope you find luck though, it's pretty uplifting. =]
Hey, you never know when you might need some basil or some plastic bottles.
I hope you can raise money for your surgery and I wish I could have given more. -hugs if you want them-
Awww thank you. <3 <3 <3 *takes ALL THE HUGS*
Well she's working hard through networking :9
No but seriously, that sucks. Tell her to hook a sister up!
Lol @ Networking. These are all kids she went to high school with (2 years ago!). She was was lucky to have gone to a large high school while being a social butterfly. xD
It doesn't matter how you met them, its still networking! Old and new contacts alike :)
But tbh, I didn't try very hard not to judge.Edited at 2013-01-20 08:10 pm (UTC)
Well that was fun, up until all doubt was irrevocably removed from my mind that he was a troll but also sincere, the worst! But then out of pure morbid curiosity I went to his lj, and lo and behold, he is an awful scab of an individual and loves to write about his boring life at length. It made me giggle a little, out of meanness.
It's hard for me to believe people like this exist, but it also solicited a great stream of validating commentary. Call me Pollyanna but overall I'm kind of glad I read it. Equally, if not more, glad the guy was banned, but glad I read it.
So he was banned? Good. Good. I couldn't read that crap and irritating because it was semi-impossible to avoid with no warnings.
Oops I spoke too soon. I don't think he has been banned yet. How do we make that happen faster?
Ok. I must've misunderstood the structure of the thread because I saw that and then I saw him commenting later.
EDIT for spelling
Edited at 2013-01-20 10:25 pm (UTC)
I dunno. I mean... what does it take to get banned?
Wow, what the hell is that entire thread?! O___O
Yeah, not really trying not to judge him either.
Yes ugh. My MIL. She had my husband when she was 17 with some asshole. And another kid a year later with another asshole. Two more kids shortly after with another asshole. All of her kids have been taken away at some point. My husband went to foster care and can't remember most of his childhood. One of the kids is uncontrollable and she gave him to the state. He is currently in a treatment center/jail and he's only 15. He robber a 7-11with a gun while under the care of a different center. The other one was taken by his aunt and uncle and she hasn't seen him since he was 1. So ALL of this happens and she gets tubal ligation. Woo right? No. She married again and the guys mother NEEDED grand kids so she had children for someone else. They got divorced and the twins never even see the grandma because they live I'm different states. Like, you could barely care for your 4 kids and one was already dangerous, so more sound like a good plan? She never even writes or sees the one in the treatment center. Ugh ugh ugh she's a miserable mother. And the twins never see her because she loves her job so much and is never home. They are brats. All of this plus she spent my husbands money and lied about it and ugh. Like whyyyy ugh sorry. My poor husband lol.
Have you tried freecycle.org?
I judge one of my friends. Idk if we're even friends anymore because we haven't talk in a bit. But she can't keep a job or relationship and smokes pot and brags about her sex life. I don't care about your sex details, period, let alone that you get beat the shit out of you and enjoy it. I just don't want to hear it, and yeah, I judge.
I judge people who take sports too seriously. I work in a sports-themed store, so this frequently ends well for me.
Edit: But if you wanted specific examples, I have a close friend who will seriously cry and get depressed and/or angry over the outcome of games. I love her to death, but... judging.
Edited at 2013-01-21 01:19 am (UTC)
I judge people who legitimately like Twilight and/or 50 Shades of Grey. There. I try so hard not to because it's like..everyone but it makes me question their taste so hard.
Yes. Jenelle on Teen Mom, if the allegations about her heroin use are true. But I also feel sad for her and her family..