get a spray bottle, fill it with water and spray him every time he opens the fridge.
but seriously, make him pay for the food.
lol, no seriously, spray him with the water bottle. The mental image is pretty entertaining.
"BAD! BAD BOYFRIEND!" /spitzspitzspitz
XD i do it with my cat, but he's turned it into a game and gets excited when i lift the spray bottle. damnit!
This was my EXACT thought. :-O
Put notes on everything saying "please put me back"
I have no idea but that would bug the shit out of me.
Serve him the spoiled food.
Make him pay for groceries.
Fine him every time he leaves something out.
lol i actually jokingly threatened to make him pay $1 every time he left something out. maybe i should, it's getting out of hand!
i thought that said "fire him" lol
Make him put it back himself. Soon enough, he'll get into the habit of just doing it automatically, rather than getting up and going back to the kitchen each time.
Clutter up your kitchen space (with non-food items) for a little while? It'll be a pain to move things around while you cook, but it might be harder for him to reflexively put stuff down if the counter is already full with other things.
Although, this could also easily spiral out of control, in which case...post-its/he has to deal with the spoiled groceries.
Put the spoiled food in his bed/side, and when he gets upset, shrug ad tell him, "Oh I thought we could just put this wherever and it'd be fine!"
Seriously fucking annoying.
That's so fucking passive aggresive though.
It is, but OP has tried being direct with no luck, so it may be time for other courses of action.
Yeah, well, was mostly a joke, but, obviously direct confrontation hasn't been working.
make him replace it (with his own money) same day. If he can't do it, then he has to pay a fee for every day he has not replaced it. It sounds harsh but maybe he will quickly break the habit.
Stop doing the shopping. Buy/make single serve meals for yourself (more expensive, I know) and let him fend for himself. He's more likely to notice the wasted money that way.
Edited at 2013-01-20 07:39 pm (UTC)
Put a sign on the fridge door that says "PUT BACK WHAT YOU TAKE OUT."
Keep a stash of your own food elsewhere. :/
I don't get how an adult could possibly be like this.
Edited at 2013-01-20 07:38 pm (UTC)
Separate your food, like roommates. He's not allowed to touch your food and he has to buy for himself and cook for himself. Anything he lets spoil, that's his to deal with.
Actually, this isn't a bad idea. Get a mini-fridge for yourself and keep all your stuff in it away from the main fridge.
When he can't eat dinner a few times because he spoiled food, but you can, he might become more consciously aware of what he's doing.
I'd go take the food to where ever he is at currently and just set it on his desk/chair/lap whatever.
"You left this out."
And walk away.
lol! I did that once but with his clothing, he was like uhm excuse me? it amazes me my husband fails to see what he is doing is lazy.
My SO does this too, especially with milk left on the counter. I dont even drink milk, but i do buy groceries more often then him and more of my money goes towards our food so man it makes me angry. I just keep reminding him every time. I try not to nag about other small things (ie: socks on floor) and completely focus on food stuff. We are thinking about moving to the "left out" jar--he puts in a quarter every time he leaves something out. If its gone bad/has to be tossed because he left it out, then he pays $2.
i think we're gonna do the jar too :)
He sounds exactly like my husband. Drives me crazy, because a lot of the time I don't realize he's done this. He works graves, gets stuff out, makes his lunch. I go to bed, get up in the morning and find the milk on the counter.
yeah, it usually happens because he's tired, and he's generally just a spacey person anyway.
Does he also forget to turn things off, like the stove? It really worries me, because this flakiness is both expensive and dangerous.
nope, he never forgets to turn things off. he just leaves the milk out. i don't quite understand.
D: My bf left the stove on the other night, I went to the kitchen for some water at 3 am and it was burning red!
This pissed me off/scared me more than anything because one of y biggest fears is burning to death and we easily could have not known until it was too late.
Ours is a gas stove, which means that eventually, we do notice a smell, but it can take a while.
Punch him in the nads every time her forgets.
Tell him he's a grown ass man and should remember to put things back in the fridge. Tell him why it annoys you and why it's impractical. He's not a kid or an animal though, like "training" him to do it sounds pretty time consuming and you're not his mom.
If only this actually worked more often than it doesn't, sadly. :/
My bf ALWAYS does this with soda and it's the most fucking irritating thing ever. A week ago I got home from work and on top of a bad day the soda was warm and flat, that started a fight and he hasn't done it since.
lol, you tend to have the most humorous solutions.
Some people learn things the difficult way, I'm trying to be part of the solution here! :P
Make a list of everything that spoils because he left it out. Just keep adding to it.
Plus a lot of what other people said. Especially the shock collar. ;)
take all the shit out of the fridge [after he goes food shoppin of course] and say "here, I made it easier for you! you shmuck"
honestly, guys who do that and also who dont clean their own dishes were obviously babied by their mothers who had them do their dishes for them.
haha he definitely was babied by his mother. but he does clean and do dishes, all the time and without being asked. he isn't lazy or dirty, just so absent minded!
yup, so is my husband. oi vey! I wish my husband did his dished :/
I cook a lot for my husband too, mainly because I like to, do you cook for your S.O. too?
he's more of the cook in the house, but i like to try things out...i did make lasagna successfully once:)
Sticky notes everywhere - on the fridge, on each individual item.
Why don't you ask him what's it going to take to help him remember - and do that?