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WEDDING QUESTIONS [Jan. 19th, 2013|09:31 pm]
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hi TQC! I'm planning my own wedding and have no idea what I'm doing!

my fiance and I have lived together for about a year, living in our own home since November. we basically have everything we need as far as essentials go. what the heck do I put on my registry? where do we register?

anybody have any idea where I could print my own wedding invitations? Kinkos and Staples = not options.

any ideas on good wedding songs? dinner, dancing, whatever!

thank you :)

edit, just remembered: any suggestions on how to best find a reasonably priced hotel/flight? I've never had a Big Vacation like this before.

[User Picture]From: verygwen
2013-01-20 02:36 am (UTC)


You can always ask people to donate to a charity you support in honor of your wedding.

Edited at 2013-01-20 02:39 am (UTC)
[User Picture]From: chaostrophy
2013-01-20 03:17 am (UTC)


This reminds me of that episode of friends where Phoebe and Mike go back and forth on donating vs having a big wedding.
[User Picture]From: kmeghan
2013-01-20 02:42 am (UTC)


you could sign up for more hobby type things... croquet set, grill, better sheets or towels, etc.

If you have pinterest, check out their pins...I bet they will have tons of suggestions for invitations and all that.

[User Picture]From: rogh_sensei
2013-01-20 02:42 am (UTC)


Go on Pinterest and type "Wedding" or "DIY Wedding" into the search field. Enjoy.
[User Picture]From: schexyschteve
2013-01-20 02:43 am (UTC)


Ask people to donate to your honeymoon. There's a thing called Honeyfund for that.
Anything you've been wanting to upgrade?
You can ask people to donate to a charity, in lieu of gifts.

You can print them yourself at home. I did it for my wedding, using kits from Michaels. It was pretty easy.

For dinner, we played a lot of songs we loved but that didn't quite work for dancing or any other places.
The Cha Cha Slide and the Cupid Shuffle will get lots of people dancing, as cheesy as they might be.

Are you a member of weddingplans? They were pretty useful when I planned mine.

Edited at 2013-01-20 02:44 am (UTC)
[User Picture]From: ai_chan77
2013-01-20 02:52 am (UTC)


We ended up printing our own wedding invitations and gluing them to card stock to make tri-fold card invitations. It was cheap but very time consuming and our invitations were gorgeous.

I registered at Target and Bed, Bath and Beyond. No one got us anything from our registries though, we got a lot of cash instead.

For hotels check groupon, sometimes you can find awesome hotels there, and I always use expedia when trying to book flights.
[User Picture]From: notdoublingback
2013-01-20 03:06 am (UTC)


We did our wedding invitations through Vistaprint. They have some nice templates and we lucked out in that around when we were doing them, there were groupons and living social deals that saved us a lot of money.

The more popular songs to dance to were like 80s songs - "You Give Love a Bad Name", "Living on a Prayer", etc.

We upgraded a lot of stuff on our registry, also asked for games for the wii. You could ask for things to decorate your home with. We registered on Amazon. Honestly, I just searched random names in their registry list to see what other people registered for. Like I put in "Susan Smith" just to see if anything this person I didn't know put on her list that I might like.
[User Picture]From: lupinlover
2013-01-20 05:52 am (UTC)


If you're going somewhere for you honeymoon, why not have a registry for your plane tickets? That's what I plan on doing since my boyfriend and I live together already.
[User Picture]From: blue_marker
2013-01-20 07:15 am (UTC)


You can register for I see someone mentioned honeyfund. I would look at both and see what's best for you.
[User Picture]From: weirdsister_fis
2013-01-20 08:02 am (UTC)


My best friend asked for tickets for entertainment/attraction-parks, dinnercheques, money for travelling, etc, because she already had every essential she could think of. I gave her two tickets to her favorite fantasy-themed attraction-park and she loved it. Maybe something like that?
If not, I also second the donate to a charity thing. We had a register (but not the in-store, a lot of expensive stuff kind) but also suggested that we'd also be happy if the guests donated money to our local animal-shelter.

I only know Dutch sites for invitations, so can not help you there ;)

The Beatles - And I Love Her was my entrance song, sung by my brother.
I love the theme of Love Actually as well.
And for the party, some golden oldies, depending on your age as well (80's/90's party, anyone?)

Where are you going? It's cheaper most times to book flight and hotel separately, though we once booked it all together in off-season for a laughable price (like 550 euro, for the two of us, 8 days, to Rhodes)
[User Picture]From: hereisfar
2013-01-20 01:20 pm (UTC)


I am going to assume you might not have your own printer, but if you do, printing your own is easy and cheap. I've done it before with kits or bought a design off etsy for $12 and printed it myself on cardstock, then cut the invitations with shaped blade scissors and tied and glued ribbon bows to the actual invitations. If you don't have your own printer google search "printing" and the city/town you live in. You might come up with a few local places that could easily handle that for you. If that's still not an option, I'm sure you could do it yourself at a library if you provided the card stock and paid 10 cents or whatever per print.

I also second searching DIY wedding on Pinterest because that will give you the most ideas.

As far as a wedding registry goes, is there anything you want that isn't ultra expensive? Video games, pretty vases, weird art, whatever? Amazon can be a great place to register if you want a lot of crazy wild things. I also second honey moon registries and donating to charity. At my parents wedding they just didn't register anywhere. They received cards full of cash or checks, a three day weekend at a bed and breakfast and a couple of nice sets of wine glasses.
[User Picture]From: ladyvox
2013-01-20 03:10 pm (UTC)


Congratulations on your engagement :) When will be the big day or haven't you set a date just yet?

While planning our wedding I checked out Vistaprint for invitation options and they have a TON of different designs and what not (and they're all pretty customizable as well). I ended up DIYing my own, using my dads color laser printer for the text bits, as I fell in love with pocketfold invitations which were no where to be found around here so I made them myself from scratch. A ton of handy work, hours and hours and hours of labor and I swear I'll never ever do it again but the invitation sets were just beautiful and we recieved a lot of compliments on them.

As we had been living together for several years prior to getting married we didn't really have a need for a wedding registry either. Instead we got donations for our honeymoon :) Do you have an idea where you'd like to go honeymooning? Just curious!
[User Picture]From: oneandonlytara
2013-01-20 05:51 pm (UTC)


My cousin and her husband were in the same boat as you and your fiance and they just put requests for giftcards to Home Sense, grocery stores, Costco and the liquor store. My cousin didn't even want a bridal shower or to register because they have everything they need, but my Aunt coaxed her into having a small brunch get together and asking for giftcards was the compromise for registering.
[User Picture]From: thunderflyer
2013-01-20 06:38 pm (UTC)


When we get to set a date, my fiance and I are putting "We ask that you don't give us presents. Your presence is gift enough." Or something along those lines.
[User Picture]From: semi_sweet
2013-01-20 07:13 pm (UTC)


I would still suggest registering, so you at least get stuff you want or can return rather than random stuff. Good examples include upgrading stuff you own, or consumable items, like fancier towels, sheets, pillowcases, nicer cookware, coffee pots, kitchenaid mixer and accessories (get the ice cream maker!), crockpot or specialty items like dutch ovens, blender, fancy china, etc.

If your guests are tech savvy, Amazon is a great place to register, also for everyone else, Bed Bath (especially because they have those coupons) works well. People usually complain about Target registries as they are very rigid about returns. There is also Macy's, Crate & Barrel or any local dept store in your area.

Asking for money, gifts, or donations can be considered rude, especially if the registry info is listed on your invitations. Let your close relatives know and spread the word via word of mouth,

You can print invitations at Vistaprint I believe? Not sure other sources.

For more wedding planning advice check out the weddingplans community or weddingbee (another social forums website).