Probably fairly common, when the ceremony and reception are in separate locations. It happened at the last 2 weddings I've been to, where they were in separate locations.
That happens a lot, yeah.
Free food and boring ceremony vs. just free food? Hmmmmm....
Fairly. My sister did the big wedding, and about half of the invited didn't come to the wedding, but most of them showed at the reception.
yeah, i feel like most people skip the ceremony and just go to the reception.
It may be common in some circles, but it's rude. I don't think anyone did this at my wedding, and I made extensive apologies when my schedule made it impossible for me to attend the ceremony but possible to attend the reception, and still felt somewhat awkward.
I agree with this - The rudeness and feeling awkward. I am just shocked that it's seemingly commonplace!
That's pretty shitty. I don't think it's common here in Australia. The service and the reception are both part of "the wedding", and they're invited to the wedding.
Ceremonies are boring and the reception is fun.
It's rude as fuck but pretty common.
I once met a couple kids who thought I should have horns on my head because I was Jewish but they had no issue with me and were all "well okay then" when they discovered the lack of horns. Which I feel like is acceptable. they were homeschooled in a tiny christian town called Accident (seriously) and lived like 5 miles from their nearest neighbor and etc.
I have no idea if it's common, but I think it's rude. The one time I've done it was (first of all, my husband didn't want to go to the actual wedding, but...) when the reception was five hours after the wedding and about forty miles away. Eff that. Not happening.
2013-01-18 03:42 am (UTC)
I think about 10-15% of my guests did this.
I think it's pretty common, at least in my experience. Actually the last handful of weddings i've been to there were substantially more people at the reception than at the ceremony :\
you know what, if you want people to come to the church ceremony, communicate that! it's your wedding.
Doesn't the wedding invite communicate that?
People really do this? Seriously? Rude!
The purpose of a wedding is to acknowledge and honor the joining of the lives of the couple. To skip out on the ceremony where that actually happens, and to then take advantage of the party, seems quite self-centered on the part of the guests.
If it's common, then I guess I'm appalled at how self-centered people are these days.
I think it has become more common but it is incredibly rude.
it didn't happen at my wedding but I had mine both at the same location.. I didn't know it was a thing..
Somewhat common and incredibly rude.
A few people did that for my first wedding, but that was because they didn't get off work in time to make the earlier ceremony. It didn't bother me because I knew that they would have gone to both if they could have and they weren't just skipping it because they thought it was boring.
For my second, I deliberately chose to invite most people to the reception only. I wanted a very small private ceremony and it was at the courthouse anyway.
Sadly, it is very common and very rude. The least you can do is sit for an hour or two in exchange for some free food and fun!
You should hand out tickets at the ceremony which people will need to get into the reception lololol
An hour or two? Good lord, if I had to go to a 2 hour ceremony, it better be someone really important to me or else I'm skipping! My ceremony was like 20 minutes...
I suppose it is common but I couldn't imagine doing that. All the weddings I have attended were at the same location. My mother's was on the outdoor deck of an upscale restaurant that overlooks the river and the ceremony was really short.
I have not noticed this phenomenon! I wonder if it is either recent (I have enormous waves of friends and cousins getting married five to ten years ago but not so many recently) or regional. It seems understandable if there is a schedule conflict and someone gives you the heads up about it with apologies, like someone mentioned above, or if there are a lot of people driving in from a couple of hours away and they intend to make the ceremony but there is loads of traffic. But otherwise weird and rude.
If the ceremony and reception are in places far away from each other or there is a long time in between, it's pretty common. If they are in the same place it's pretty uncommon.
this is what I've noticed too.
It's bad etiquette, but no, don't be surprised.
the only people that did that for my wedding were my coworkers - one of them had to work til late and the others drove with her. Though... honestly for all I know a bunch mor people did that, because I wasn't really counting heads while I was up there saying my vows.